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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 47
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? San Diego
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Director of Sales
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Vintage
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40 to 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

60 Day Bliss

How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? She was about 5’7 and very athletic, her body was very toned but she was not super thin. She had dirty blonde hair and a great smile. Her eyes are hazel and she looked like the girl next door. She was my neighbor up the street fiancee’. I had known them for about 6 months thru a ex girl friend and would often play basketball or tennis with my neighbor at the local park. I was able meet her one day when she showed up to play tennis. She was attractive and pretty fit but at first I really did not think twice about her

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So one evening after work, I called my buddy as we had made plans to play some tennis. To my surpprise she answers the phone and informs me that his father bought him pre-marriage trip to Greece for 60 days. (His father lived in Athens) She said she encouraged him and he left that afternoon. I said ok and was about to hang up but she quickly said that she would play. I said sure and she walked up to meet me and we walked to the park. We laughed, we played tennis, we sat and chatted it was fun. She had a backpack with her but I really never noticed. We head for our homes but when we get to my apartment I ask if she would like a drink (water, lemonade, beer) and she responded “sure” when we get up to my apartment she asked if she could shower and I said ok. When she came out she was all dressed up and looking amazing. She said she was meeting a girlfriend for drink and invited me. She thought her friend and myself would hit it off. We waited and waited but her friend did not show, after a while we decided to eat and head home. Well, when she dropped me off I asked about her coming up for one last drink and she said ok. That is where it all began

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were watching TV and she decided to lean on me on my couch. I asked if I could place my arm around her so she could be more comfortable. She said yes with a little hesitation in her voice so I did very carefully. She started rubbing my chest and finally i just kissed her. We made out for a few minutes and I let my hands roam her body. I know she was fighting it in her head so I decided to make the first move. I slid my hand up her skirt and started just touching her. She moaned and could not fight it anymore. She strattled me and took my pants down and rode me for as long as she could. I knew I had to get more comfortable so I took her to the bedroom where I undressed her. For our first time I just entered her missionary position and helped her climax. Once she did I asked her if she was on the pill and she said yes. At that moment, I filled my head with all the pleasure I could for the evening. Over and over, I was able to perform at my peak and had so much pleasure.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I did not know what the future was going to hold as I was not looking to break her up with her fiancee. She came over that next evening and asked that I do not tell anyone which I agreed. She said she would not break up with her guy and as soon as she said that. I had her again and again that night. We had sex almost everyday for the next two months. When her man came back we stopped. It was so much fun to have her for that time period

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Not at all

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody really, my now wife knows about it as she knew who she was

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That I know what she is like in bed

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I know what she is like in bed

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No not really

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has played a role in my life, some good and some bad moments. In society things have changed about casual sex. You have apps and meets that make it very easy to hook up. Its almost dumbing down the chase in society. I met a woman 28 years old that had never been on three casual dates with a man. She had not experienced that side of it.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cool but what is the end goal with all the stories?

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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