What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Researcher
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Heteroflexible
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? German. About half a foot taller than me (I’m roughly 5’1), lean, fit body. Few years older than me. We matched on Tinder the night before. I found him really good looking, and after some texting throughout the day, we agreed to meet late that night at his place. I cannot express just how glad I am to have instigated it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? By the time I got to his place, it was near midnight. I was surprised upon seeing him because he had this huge beard, which he did not have in his Tinder photos. Any other time I would’ve been turned off immediately, but that didn’t happen with him. On the contrary, I thought it looked good on him!
Instead of heading straight to his rented suite, he suggested we check out the rooftop pool, which I agreed to. The building was in the middle of the city, and I’m a sucker for night views. We took a few minutes taking in the view, then headed down to his suite.
It was too fancy a place for me, so I took time to check out the suite. Then we sat and chatted a bit on the couch. After a while we started making out, and then clothes started coming off. At one point while I was straddling him and he was sucking on my breasts, I told him to “suck harder”, to which he replied, “where’d you learn to give orders like that?”. It was such a turn-on and all I remember feeling was how much I wanted to consume the entirety of him right there and then,
We took a break because I wanted a quick rinse (no way was he going down on me without a rinse; I’d been at work for 14 hours!). He joined me, and in hindsight, that was actually my first and only time being in the shower with a partner. He looked even more beautiful in the light.
We both dried ourselves, and quickly resumed things in bed. He went down on me and fingered me to my first orgasm. I was to have many, many mind-blowing orgasms in the next 3.5 hours. I couldn’t get enough of this guy – he’s the most soft-spoken man I’ve ever known, and his eyes are so damn dreamy even McDreamy don’t got a thing on him. After I came, I couldn’t wait to get him inside me so he promptly put on a condom and entered me missionary. It felt good, but it didn’t feel right, so we turned to our sides and he fucked me in a spooning position. My absolute favourite. He stopped for a while as he didn’t want to come too soon, but he just stayed inside me while we talked. The intimacy was so raw it burned. Shortly after we continued, and he came inside me. He cleaned up, we talked more, then it was Round 2. This time we fucked with me on my stomach and him wrapped around my back. If the intimacy burned earlier, now it was suffocating me but in the sweetest way possible. He came, he cleaned up, we talked more. And to our surprise, he got hard again. Round 3! I blew him for a while before he got inside me missionary. Our last orgasm was almost in sync, and when he came, I thought I was gonna cry because goddamn was he beautiful.
We talked for a while more, and as it was nearing 4AM and I had to work in ~4 hours, I left soon after. He made it clear that he doesn’t do repeats, and even though he said he was gonna keep my number for a few years, I don’t expect to ever hear from him again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Obviously neither of us expected anything to come out of that night. It was purely fun and pleasure. But I think the whole experience ended up far more than I thought possible. For one, the intimacy was the most I’ve ever felt during a hookup. It’s so ironic when I think of his warning to me..”careful there, don’t get attached now”. I didn’t plan on it. It just happened. I don’t know where he lives, not even his full first name. All I have is a memory of that night we spent together.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Couple of close friends and a couple of ex-partners (with whom I’m in close contact with). Generally positive, not much reaction, really.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The intimacy I felt. It’s going to take a lot to top that, unfortunately.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Knowing I will never see him again.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? It happened end of May, which is a month ago now. And I haven’t stopped thinking about that night since. I wrote this mainly because I wanted to put this out there. Don’t care if anyone’s even going to read it. You can say I’m writing this for me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. I love sex, period. Sex is a beautiful thing, and I wish more people can embrace it (no matter in what form) instead of confining it to only a certain definition/form that is deemed acceptable.
Personally, casual sex is central to my sense of self. Some might find this shallow, but sex is about the only time when I feel most at ease being me, to just *be*. My social life consists of only work (*perks* of being in market research), where a smile is expected to be put on 24/7. That, together with being surrounded by peers/family who frown at anything remotely sexual (for an unmarried female, that is), it’s fucking suffocating. Sex is where and when I feel safe.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I read it almost daily! It’s a great outlet for people to read and/or share stories on something as beautiful as sex and intimacy. In my everyday life, I don’t have anyone who’ll listen, let alone understand, to my engaging in casual sex, so this site, in many ways, plays that role in “listening” to me. In a way, reading about the many experiences other people have also validates my experiences, which is comforting. It’s the little things that count, really.
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