What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Austria
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3 men
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3
We almost got caught
How long ago did this hookup happen? a few days ago
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Gunther is my regular sex partner. He is a friend of my parents. He is married and is the father of two primary school kids. He is 42 years old, is tall and very muscular, very hairy. We both live in the same village.
Our relationship has been going for a while. Gunther seduced me when I was 17. We have had secret sex ever since. Gunther is very concerned that someone may find out, which would have catastrophic results for both of us. This whole year, we have hardly ever met because of this. Nowadays, we only meet briefly in his car so that I give him a blowjob. I am very frustrated with this situation, always looking for a longer and more intense sexual experience with him.
Our relationship is not equal. Gunther is bisexual, I have discovered that I am gay. I have never had sex with a girl and little desire to do so. Gunther told me that he has regular sex with his wife. He just happens to also like young men. I know that Gunther pretty much uses me for sex, but I am sort of in love with him anyway, always longing for the next opportunity to give him pleasure. I understand that many people would consider what Gunther is doing to be very immoral but I don’t see it that way. Gunther has a sexual desire that his wife cannot satisfy simply because she is a woman. What is he to do? I don’t think he should supress his desires for all his live. Whenever I see his wife, I feel envy rather than guilt.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? On Sunday, Gunther messaged me that his wife and kids had left and I should come over. He was very horny. My heart leapt with joy. I had dreamt about something like this happening for a while now. Unfortunately, I could not go immediately because my father demanded I do some work with him. I had no valid excuse so valuable time got wasted this way. When I finally made my way over to the neighbouring house, I had a huge boner.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We went straight to the bedroom because there was not that much “safe” time left anymore. I knew that if I would let Gunther fuck me immediately he would just let me leave afterwards. He may see me as his fucktoy, but I am in love with him and feel a need to kiss him, caress his body. I wanted a longer make out session. I had made it clear earlier to Gunther that those are my needs and thus he did not pressure me to get to the main part of the encounter too soon. Gunther does enjoy my firm young body (as a sportsperson, I am very fit), of course, but he is much more happy to just have a quick sexual release than I am.
We kissed and caressed extensively. I licked Gunther’s chest hair, went lower and gave him a prolonged blow job. He fondled my penis as I was sucking his, also licking his balls. Gunther held back so he would not ejaculate, saving that for the anal pleasure we were both craving. We have not had anal intercourse with each other for months now. We finally got to it, me naked on his matrimonial bed getting fucked the usual doggy style.
At the most pleasurable moment when Gunther was pumping me, groaning with joy and I was happily masturbating with the heavenly feeling of his divine cock inside me, we heard the front door opening, the voices of the wife and kids!!!
What a shocker! I almost had a heart attack. We got dressed in a flash. I never got dressed so quickly in my life. Gunther pushed me into the bath room whispering to me that he would distract them.
I waited for a moment in the bathroom, my mind racing. I could not come up with a good excuse for me being here. I guess Gunther expected me to sneak past his wife and kids, but that seemed to be a very risky manoeuvre. I did not have much time! I opened the window and realised that it was not too high and should be easy enough for me to climb down. I heard Gunther talk to his kids downstairs. I realised that I had left my pullover in the bedroom. I could only hope that Gunther would find and hide it before his wife would see it. I did not dare to go back and get it.
I climbed down and went home which proved to be pretty easy. Nobody had seen me. An hour later Gunther texted me telling me that he hid my pullover and all was good. But it was a very close call indeed and we got very scared.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I know that Gunther is very shocked about the event and is now very afraid that we will get caught one day. I fear that he will tell me that he wants to stop this completely. Tomorrow we will meet for probably the usual car blowjob. I will try to persuade him that we go somewhere we can have anal sex. I want him to ejaculate inside my anus because he missed out on doing that on Sunday.
I have set my mind that if Gunther decides to end our secret relationship, I will leave the village as this would be unbearable.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Submission / Relinquishing power
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, this is probably why I am writing this down here.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being intimate with Gunther and taking my time to do so. Doing it on a bed and not in the car or the forest.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Getting interrupted when we were almost climaxing. The fear of getting caught. My fear that Gunther will now end the secret relationship.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? As written above, if Gunther stops I have to find a way to leave the village and live in a city where I can find another lover and can enjoy my sexuality without fear and hopefully less heartbreak.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If I really get to live in a city, there will probably be plenty of casual sex for me! I want to be with many men.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? A good way of focussing my thoughts and getting rid of frustration when I am writing about my experience.
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