What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 26
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2 or 3
Anal, Cheating and Vaseline
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He’s a European. Blonde, over 6 feet probably. Very attractive and gifted in the downstairs department as I found out later. I met him that day at a night club. He was nice, didn’t know English super well but I found that attractive.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’ve been traveling since last weekend, so of course I’ve been hitting the night life in the cities I go to. I never really planned on hooking up with anyone, I just went for dancing. So that night I was just dancing, drinking a little but responsibly. My fling came and started dancing with me, he was good, moved nicely, was obviously just having fun but he was the handsiest guy ever. He touched by butt several times, and even my breasts. If he wasn’t super attractive I would have probably kicked him. Instead we danced for a while and then we went and got drinks. He was nice, charming and I didn’t really want to go back to my hotel alone. So I said fuck it, no one will know and I’m young and on the road and this will be a nice experience. So I went home with him.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? His house was a small one bedroom apartment. We started making out in the elevator and didn’t really talk at his place at all. We just lay on the bed and continued to make out, and he eventually kissed his way down and pushed my dress up and panties down before using his fingers and tongue to make me come.
It was the third time in the last two weeks that I’d received amazing oral from a hook up (after years w just my bf, who hates giving oral). I was happy and relaxed and after a little longer of making out, I was willing to let him in. But we needed a condom. He asked me if we could go without it and I refused. I was not on birth control, I was cheating with a stranger and I had already fucked up once in the past week by having nonprotective sex. At least then I had a morning after pill nearby, here that wasn’t the case.
Turns out though that he didn’t have one, anywhere in the house, which was surprising af. Also, he doesnt live near a place where we can get one easily, and he also doesnt have a car. Besides, it’s super annoying to take a break halfway through. He began looking around his room, though soon it became obvious he knew he didnt have one and was just too embarassed to admit it. I pointed out that it looked like he didn’t have one. He shrugged. I asked what should we do now. “Do you do anal?” he asked. I nodded. I had done anal before this, and didn’t hate it. I asked if he had lube. He didn’t, and I wasn’t about to do it with only spit (‘ve done it before and its painful.) We ended up looking around his house for household lube, and settled on Vaseline! lol. It seemed like it would suffice, so I laid forward and let him use his fingers, mouth and the vaseline to open up and lube my ass. He did this for several minutes, then I got on my knees and he entered from behind.
It hurt at first, maybe it was the lack of adequate lube, or maybe it was just cause he was HUGE, or both. But at first it was painful. I wasn’t enjoying it too much, but he did move slowly at first – firmly but slowly moving in and then out in measured thrusts. Eventually though it got easier for me and I started moving back against his thrusts, and we developed a good rythm. He went faster and deeper, and I moaned in pain and pleasure while also hoping that I wouldn’t shit or do something embarassing like that. I didn’t, thankfully. My hookup was quite attentive, he slowed down if he thought I was in pain, and used his finger to stimulate my clit after we changed positions. We ended back in doggy style and he came in me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning we actually went to town and got condoms for PIV, as well as some lube so we didn’t need Vaseline next time we did anal lol. He’s a nice guy and we’ve added each other on insta and facebook, but I don’t really plan to have something longer lasting with him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Making new friends, Everyone else was/is doing it, Boredom, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My two best friends only, any one else may talk. They found it quite funny and agreed that it was a cool experience.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I’m not the biggest fan of anal, but this was one of my better experiences with it.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He is uncircumcised. That’s not a big deal but it’s not my preference.
I have a bf. We aren’t very steady right now though and in my opinion, if he doesn’t know about it, it’s whatever right now. I asked him for an open relationship and he didn’t want one so…
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It was a new experience that I am sure I will look fondly on when I’m older and this is what I want in my sexual life; to have nice new experiences with a variety of people. My philosophy is to do things and have no regrets, and I am glad I didn’t turn him down.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I used to be against it, but now I think it’s great that society is moving in this direction as humans are naturally sexual creatures who get great pleasure from these experiences and shouldn’t feel guilt.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s great!
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