What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 28
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Arts
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Like men, love women.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 30+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 8
Another Drama Society Fling
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A was one of the new members of the drama society as I joined up. She was slim, with short blonde hair, thin legs, and large breasts. I met her on a couple of social nights out and we had flirted before and I was making for the right time to make a move. I felt she liked me back in that way so was very interested in the possibility of hooking up with her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We had been out on a society night out and as we were heading home I ended up with A on a street, her friend and another guy I knew. Her friend was really into the guy (they weren’t really hiding the fact that they were going home together at this point). A was a bit shy and I agreed to walk her home with her friend adding ‘feel free to be as loud as you guys like’ (they weren’t all on the best of terms with her flatmate.
Once they left I walked A back to her flat and we ended up in her room. I could tell she was still nervous and shy. We talked a bit and reached that stage where someone needs to make a move or it could all end horribly. Taking the plunge I leaned over and kissed her. She responded, and then the fun began.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We very quickly got undressed while attacking each other with our mouths. With her still being nervous I took it a bit slow to begin with to make her feel more comfortable. I started with foreplay, gently pleasuring her with my fingers as she started to get more wet and kissing her neck (I love necks).
She then asked me to fuck her (which turned me on) so with that, the condom came out. She was a moaner, which turns me on as well. She wrapped her legs around mine as well which was just hot as hell. At one point she told me to fuck her harder (which was what I thought I was doing at the time so stepped up my game). We had sex for what felt like a few hours at least, she would always say ‘I’m gonna cum’ before each orgasm which just turned me on more.
Although we did it for a while we didn’t really change from missionary, but we were just having too much fun. We eventually went to sleep and had some fun again the next day before I had to go.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Apparently, the flatmate they didn’t like had heard us having sex and kept her up so she wasn’t too happy. She was dating one of my flatmates at the time and she could be quite loud during sex so I wasn’t feeling too bad haha.
A and I ended up having sex on a few more occasions but she started getting a bit weird, almost standoffish sometimes like she thought I was ignoring her, which I wasn’t I was just keeping it casual. I think she overthought it, which is usually a thing that men do (myself included).
We ended up just sort of ending. I did run into her during a summer class a year later but aside from casual ‘Hi’s we didn’t really talk. If the opportunity came up again I’d happily revisit our casual sex times.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? It wasn’t a secret so everyone sort of knew. They weren’t really bothered. Everyone was shagging.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Having sex with an attractive blonde girl I had wanted to have sex with for a while.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Her reactions a few weeks later.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? At the time it taught me to try and at least figure out between a partner what you actually are (i.e. casual or not) as this can lead to confusion and hurt feelings.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Nah I’ve already said everything.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex, but that may just be being a horny bastard. I think it’s a great way for people to see to the desires they might have instead of just getting frustrated or repressed.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Like reading the stories and gaining perspective on it worldwide.
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