by Paul Green
What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Ireland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Police officer
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Asian Guy on Grindr
How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Finished shift early and went onto Grindr cause was very horny and was a hot summers day. Swapped pics with Asian twink aged early 20’s very slim and good looking. Met at his apartment. Not satisfied after hookup as he was too selfish. Fulfilled a fantasy being with Asian guy.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? His apartment after work. I drove over after work. We both instigated it. I dressed in shorts and t-shirt it was around 7pm on a Sunday. I had to buzz to get in to the building do he knew when to open the door. I walked in and found him lying on his bed wearing boxers.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I was hard already so I stripped off as I walked over to him. I lay on top off him and we made out hands exploring each others’ bodies. I love kissing men so hadn’t a long make out session then kissed and licked his neck, chest down to his cock. Was surprised how small and thin it was (not to sound like an ass). I kissed and licked his cock while fingering his ass whilst maintaining eye contact. I then sucked him for about 15 minutes straight and he moaned in pleasure. I was able to deep throat easily. But before he came I rimmed his ass which he loved. He didn’t want sex, but let me finger him. He came shortly after and we made out some more. After that, he wouldn’t suck me off as he was tired. I got pissed off and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? A little
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After he came, he lost interest wouldn’t suck or even wank me off. I got pissed off because I was still horny and left. Never meeting again because he’s an asshole.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody. I’m married
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Guy was too selfish to pleasure me. Cheating on my wife yet again
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sucking Asian cock was a fantasy of mine
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Left with blueballs
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Now before hookups I make it clear that I expect something in return!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Never met any person male or female to act in this way. Was completely surprised at the change in attitude once he came
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex is seen as taboo and people sometimes shamed for doing it. If it feels good and is consensual then go for it!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great to read other experiences
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