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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 45
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Switzerland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? entrepreneur
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: something spiritual
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? non monogamous, curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? more than 20
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1

a bearded guy working with big worksite machinery –

How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? we met on a kinky-meet-up website, we mailed for a while, and shared a few pictures, and a lot about sex and couple and romance and life in general
we met once for lunch – and I told the guy I couldn’t promise anything before meeting for real
he came – with his dog and even invited me for the meal – really nice btw – very wide and interesting culture

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? we kept texting and sexting and finally we found a day with about 2-3 hours to ourselves – he took me to his house and

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? we talked a bit on the sofa – then slowly but surely we began getting closer and shredding layers of clothes – until we were both very excited – great sex! for a looong time! with a great company

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? great – all filled up with love hormones …

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Making new friends

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? my psychotherapist and a couple of friends – supportive

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? finding an old soul in a relatively young body – a very interesting man – open to all kinds of themes for conversations – and for sex experiencing – testing –

the connection is the best thing always – feeling connected even if it’s for a short time

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? dog hair on the sofa and on my clothes for days…f

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? no – it’s not my first hookup I’m getting hooked on having hookups I guess…

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? a big smile!

and there are things I can share and other things I’d rather keep to myself, it’s my private garden

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? sometimes I think it should be mandatory – but then some people are too narrowminded to the good points of this

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? great idea

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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