What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Husband but a few guys in the wings
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 27
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? Lots
A beautiful girl and an arrogant man
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? J was about 6 foot, well built, extremely good looking but knew it and so had a beard glasses and a beanie hat to hide it!! Too many bimbos apparently! From Newcastle and a company director. I guess you don’t get that kind of job without some ego…
C was black, 20s, very pretty and so friendly. 34F tits (I asked) and about size 14.
The two of them had been up drinking and smoking and taking pills all night so were a bit frazzled when I arrived. She was wearing a belt with cuffs on it and a black dress, he was in his usual trendy t-shirt and pants.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I’d met J on Craigslist and we’d met up two days running. He intrigued me and we did a lot of talking before anything sexual happened. He said he normally waited until the third meet to fuck but we fucked both times, albeit for about 5 mins each time. A taster he said.
I felt both comfortable and uncomfortable. He said I needed to come when told. He knew I was married and I instantly felt like I’d let him down. He made me relaxed and tense together.
He had plenty of sex toys and a bit of bondage stuff. After my proper BDSM taster (which I wrote about last) I knew I didn’t want too much of that.
I told him I could come over on the Saturday morning which he agreed, but then said that C was round. I could watch or join in? She’d never been with a woman either and was keen.
I was unsure but thought why not… I could always leave. I was dressed in casual weekend gear so not sexy at all but I jumped on the bus. Jj said to hurry as there would be a blindfolded guy with an 8 inch cock arriving soon.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I got to the flat and C let me in. She was very nice and made me a drink. I was nervous and needed a little while before I felt OK to take off my clothes.
I got down to my underwear and C and I kissed. It was nice kissing a girl and we started feeling each other and she got me naked.
Over the next couple of hours we both sucked J (who was not getting remotely hard cos of the drugs), licked each other, she stroked me all over with lube and fucked me hard with a dildo. I generally enjoyed it all, but when it came to her I wasn’t enjoying using the dildo on her.
J spent an inordinate amount of time trying to put music on and trying to find someone else to come. By the time I was using the dildo on her it was getting late, I needed to go and I started to feel quite sick and upset about it all. I hurriedly got dressed and left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I walked back to the bus in tears. I was in shock at what happened. J said he’d been sitting back as he thought we were enjoying ourselves enough. I just wanted him to fuck me but he couldn’t get hard.
I then had an awful night. The friction from the dildo irritated me and I spent a few hours on the toilet. During this time I decided I couldn’t do all that again and I just wanted to be with my favourite guy Lou. I told him this and started dumping all the other guys I was seeing, until he told me his other girl had found out about me and she’d dumped him, so he was dumping me!!!
My whole world caved in – and then a family crisis came on top. I couldn’t stay in the house and ended up driving round the city and actually going to Jay’s where we just talked.
I ended up having to plead to get T and GG back in my life. Jay decided that actually he was going to behave from now on anyway but we still chat and so that’s fine.
J sent me some videos of the threesome which were hot – but he looks like a total arrogant wanker in them. It really wound me up. Over the next week we argued a lot and he was sick so I didn’t go and see him and he flipped out. I feel so angry I let his psychological shit mess with my head. I told him I was stronger without him and deleted our chat.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more confident
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish, MDMA, ecstasy, molly
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told all the guys I am seeing or chatting with. I shared the videos as I know they won’t – most were turned on and agreed J comes across as a moron in them.
L and I have reconciled although it was just yesterday and I still feel a little awkward about it right now. Whilst I was sucking his cock I showed him the videos, his reaction was to get a little less hard so I’m not sure really how good the videos are. If you cut out J you’d have about 15% left!!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I went along with something I was unsure of – but I wasn’t assertive enough and I didn’t get what I needed.
But it’s ticked off so I won’t do it again in a hurry.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Kissing C was nice. The dildo fuck was good at the time.
Also I finally got to feel big boobs!! And what a let down!! They were just squishy and felt like limp pillows. I’m so glad my 34b’s are nice and firm and perky!!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Not getting fucked (we speculated I may have felt better if the other guy had turned up before I left). And looking back, I should have chosen a more considerate lover and someone I knew better to be the meat in the sandwich.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Well I always thought I was heterosexual and loved cock and now I know for sure!!
It also made me determined not to just take anything offered to me. I’m in charge.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Normally I go into much more detail when I write these up. I can’t bring myself to think about it very much to be honest. It slightly disgusts me. I know when I was in the middle of it I was ok at the time and genuinely couldn’t have had a more lovely girl for my experiment. But I just don’t want to replay it in my mind and then write it down.
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