Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Investment banker
Religious affiliation: Recovering Catholic
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
Best I Ever Had… Until She Gave Me Chlamydia!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 7 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup? friends-with-benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? At the time I was approximately 23. She was 18 or 19 years old. She was the ex-girlfriend of an acquaintance of mine. We only knew each other by face/name. She saw me out one night with one of my friends, we spoke briefly, and at some point that night she decided to send me a Facebook message. I didn’t read it until the next morning. It said something basic and straightforward like, “You’re really cute. We should hang out sometime.” — Basically, she made it clear that she didn’t want to talk politics.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The very little planning that took place occurred over Facebook and text message, and the plans were vague. She just wanted to “hang out” and wanted to do it at my house. I connected the dots and assumed we would have sex. The only setback was that she was worried about her ex boyfriend finding out because it would cause a bunch of drama that neither she nor I wanted. One prerequisite to her coming over was that she requested to park her car in my garage. I was fine with whatever conditions she had because she was amazingly beautiful and I was happy to get the attention.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? She came over and we smoked a blunt. Smoking weed is always something to do to break the ice, and at the time everybody our age was smoking blunts so it seemed like a good thing to. We sat close together and talked about superficial things. She was just out of high school and I had already graduated college. We barely scratched the surface before starting to make out. She got on top of me and took her top off. She asked me if I wanted to suck on her nipples (which were both pierced). I thought to myself, “wow, what a dumb question!!” So I did. Quickly, she decided to go down on me while still wearing her little jean shorts, and to this day, I’ve never felt anything better. She was very sexual for her age. She ultimately took her panties off and put me in the 69 position. Her clitoral hood was pierced; this was one of the most exciting moments of my life. I loved that because it was different and until that moment, I’d never seen a clitoral piercing in the flesh. We eventually had sex after a good amount of foreplay and oral sex. One detail that stands out in my mind is that, when I finished (doggy style), I pulled out and came in my hand. She turned around, grabbed my hand, opened it and licked the semen right off…. I know!! It was amazing.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? DID NOT DISCUSS STI HISTORY… Our fling ended after about a month when she gave me chlamydia. It was cleared up with a shot in the ass, but it was still aggravating and scary.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had just gotten out of a long relationship and I’m naturally shy. With her being the assertive one, it was hard to turn it down.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Our encounter began with smoking weed, so I guess you could say drugs were involved.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the first hookup I’m pretty sure we went to get something to eat and then had more sex. I’m certain that she slept over that night and came back almost every day for the next month.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my close friends. They were jealous.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Completely consensual for both parties.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not at all… Even with the chlamydia.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? If anything, this experience made me a proponent of casual sex. The best part of the hookup are the memories. The worst part of the hookup is that it is over and the bar was set pretty high. My wife, to whom I’m completely faithful, doesn’t do a lot of things this girl did. I do find myself wanting more sexually, but I’m thankful for what I have and I keep everything in perspective.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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