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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Healthcare/Science
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Kinky, sort of female dominant (I like to fuck guys with a strap on), ethical slut, cuckoldress
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Somewhere between 35 and 45. I’ve lost count over the years.
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Bisexual (Mildly) Femdom MFM

How long ago did this hookup happen? About a year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)

How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This hookup was with a guy I was dating at the time (now an ex) and a male casual sex partner. My main guy was a casual sex partner turned romantic partner and we had not been together very long, less than 6 months. To the outside world he was a gun totin’, ex-military, card carrying macho manly-man type, but friendly and maybe not as emotionally intelligent as me or the other guy. He was sexually submissive, bisexual, and desired a “hot wife” cuckold-style relationship. He worked out regularly, was very physically fit, muscular, and hung like a horse. Lots of stamina in the sack and game for anything. He was a few years older than me. The extra guy was my most prized occasional fuck buddy. We’ve known each other for a few years on a strictly sexual level and, though we don’t see each other often, we have super reliable, awesome sexual chemistry. This is one of the reasons I chose him for the threesome. He’s also very physically fit and muscular, but the complete opposite in personality to my main guy, i.e. very intelligent, more the smoldering, quiet type. Also bi-sexual, into being dominated by women (but less so than the boyfriend), and very sexually adventurous. He’s a few years younger than me. I’d met both of them on websites that cater to kinky people.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a lot of lead up and planning. They had both been in threesomes before, but this was my first group sex experience and I really didn’t know what to expect. You often hear about the terrible ones and I wanted to avoid regrets or damaging my relationships. For me, it felt mildly high stakes, because they were two of my favorite sex partners and one was a new romance. I’d already discussed ad nauseum with my main guy what we both wanted and fleshed out any concerns or dealbreakers. I was 100% sure we were both on board and ready to roll with whatever happened. I exchanged a few emails with the hookup explaining things, throwing some ideas out there, and getting his feedback. All of us agreed to go with the flow at my pace and stop if anything felt wrong. We met at my place, had a drink and chatted for a bit. This was my only regret. We weren’t really matched up well personality wise. My guy and I wanted to party a little bit first and the hookup isn’t chatty. They were just too different and, while this dynamic ultimately made for great sex, the conversation beforehand was strained and awkward. Thank god we met at home and not in public first. I let the chit chat go on for what I thought was long enough for the guys to be able to tell they were both cool. Then when I couldn’t handle it anymore, I said I thought it was time to head to the bedroom. I mean, my hottest fuck buddy was in my presence and I really didn’t wanna chat anyway. You know what I mean?

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I took off my robe, revealing fishnet lingerie underneath. I undressed the fuck-buddy, ran my fingernails all over his body, played with and sucked on his pierced nipples. We stood and dirty danced a little face to face, grinding and groping each other while kissing, smiling, making eye contact. Our connection feels uniquely passionate in comparison to my other sex partners. The boyfriend undressed and immediately didn’t know what to do with himself. He said so, but got busy with finding mood music, fluffing pillows, and eventually laid back on the bed watching us and stroking himself. He loved it, this was his fantasy coming to life. I thought it was cute that his response was to make things nice for us.

I had them both side by side on the bed on their knees, legs spread apart and asses up in the air. It was dark and they couldn’t see me from behind, so I cracked my bull whip a couple of times to fuck with their heads, emphasize their vulnerability, and display my dominance. They jumped a little, one of them made a noise. Not really a whimper, more like surprise. That bull whip is fun for me! I spanked them with a riding crop and my hands, then played with their asses. They both had smooth shaved, clean, and muscular bubble butts. The boyfriend, more submissive of the two, was extremely hard. He loved being a sex toy. The hookup was losing his erection, too much spanking. It’s complicated enough to craft an amazing BDSM experience that frightens and hurts in a good way for one person, let alone two at the same time, so I decided to turn my attention to the sex. We got on the bed facing each other in a circle on our knees and started touching each other, groping, stroking each other, masturbating, hands everywhere on nipples, pecs, breasts, ass cheeks, biceps. It was overwhelmingly and gloriously hard to keep track of what was going on. That was the beauty of the threesome. Take all the sex position combos and sex acts you can do with a couple and multiply it by what feels like ten. The possibilities were endless! Something is always happening to someone/s at any given time. By now, we’re all worked up and the hookup throws me around the bed a little, gets me laying down on my back and starts enthusiastically eating me out while the boyfriend puts his dick in my mouth. The hookup really gets into the oral, like, committed and eating pussy like it’s his job. Then the hookup gets really forceful and SITS ON MY FACE so I can rim him while the boyfriend sucks his dick. The hookup is really hard, moaning, and grinding my face. I love this, it turns me on a lot when they get off on receiving anal. I come up for air. The hookup blows the b.f. while he plays with my pussy and I’m surprised at how hot it is to watch the hookup go down as far as he can on the b.f.’s large member. He is sucking dick as enthusiastically and skillfully as he is at eating me out. It was sexy, but I also admired his technique. I start to run my fingers through the hookup’s wavy, dark hair and then gently push his head while he is sucking and then stroking the b.f.’s balls.

The hookup and I start rolling around on the bed and he fucks me missionary (my favorite) with my legs and arms wrapped around his sweaty body pounding away at me. The boyfriend is watching and stroking himself next to me on the bed and I start yelling, “Yes! Yes! I love it! You’re my favorite!!” Completely true, but also a great turn on for the cuckolded b.f. While I’m screaming in ecstasy, the bed banging against the wall, the b.f. goes downstairs, freshens our drinks, and deals with the music situation again. He yells to us that he loves this and could listen to it all night, that he feels put in his rightful place beholden to my slutty whims. The hookup cums inside of me and when the b.f. returns, we take a short breather laying all together on the bed. The b.f. hugs and holds me, stroking my body softly. He’s really happy and for the duration of our relationship this experience is a high note that (to my surprise) somehow brings us much closer as a couple.

However, this break from the action unfortunately leads to awkward chatting again, so I get out my strap-on. Everything after the break happened so fast and hardcore. We’d gotten into a rhythm of sorts and, at this point, anything goes. We just start doing stuff wildly, unbridled. I butt-fuck the hookup doggystyle bent over the bed while the b.f. tries to eat me out and then fucks me from behind at the same time I’m fucking the hookup from behind. Then I strap a face dildo to the b.f. while he’s on his back and tell the hookup to ride the face dildo. While the hookup is riding his face, I blow him for a while, then blow the b.f. and play around with the b.f.’s dick, which is swollen huge and hard by now, smacking it around, teasing with my hand. Then I encourage the hookup to do the same. He smacks it around with a riding crop while he rides the face dildo. At this point, as I watch this scene play out, I realize that we’ve not only done almost all of the things on my bucket list, but are now just making stuff up as we go. It felt spontaneous and inspired. The hookup cums again while on the face dildo. I have no recollection of how things ended or what else we did after that, though, it went on for a quite a while longer and we took another break. I’m pretty sure it was just straight sex or oral after that. We fucked for hours. The hookup came twice, but neither me or the b.f. did. I need to concentrate and focus in order to cum and there was just so much going on. It was a night to remember and probably the most exciting sexual experience I’ve had to date.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Everybody had a great time. I haven’t fucked the hookup since, but that really isn’t unusual for us. I hope to see him and fuck again in the future. I selfishly pray that he won’t find a monogamous girlfriend. Before parting ways in our relationship, the b.f. and I had been working on another threesome and planned to incorporate it into our sex life as well as other adventures. As mentioned above, this experience brought us closer on an intimate level and made both of us happy and horny. I felt pleased that I’d achieved some activities on my sexual bucket list and added new experiences to my sexual repertoire. I was glad that it had gone well for all of us. Great sex adventures make me feel liberated, confident, and empowered. This was one of those experiences where I felt like a sex god afterwards. I certainly hope to repeat it.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Discussed STI testing history

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my best friends. People who already know about my exciting, unorthodox sex life and don’t judge me. They reacted with admiration and interest.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fucking two insanely hot guys at the same time, watching them make out. The wild and crazy stuff we did that I wasn’t expecting. The positive changes in the intimacy with my main partner at the time. Feeling like an accomplished, great lover. Adventure, discovery, and excitement. Challenging myself. Experimenting.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The dynamic between us when not fucking was awkward and a little embarrassing. I felt guilty that I hadn’t even noticed the b.f. didn’t orgasm, but he didn’t mind and, honestly, I think it was part of the fantasy for him.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was already totally into casual sex. It got me interested in exploring group sex.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’ve embraced casual sex. Before I started experimenting, I was very closeted and repressed, well into my 30’s. Casual sex helped me in a low pressure, low stakes way learn how to have sex and be good in bed. I’m glad that I began this journey mid-life, having the wisdom and good judgement to do it in a manner that has been safe and positive. Out of an estimated 40 or so partners thus far, I can still only count on one hand how many times I’ve had an experience that made me feel bad afterwards and I’ve never felt in danger. I literally regard casual sex as important as other builders of my self esteem, such as working on my degree, achieving success in my career/s, participating in healthy activities, and being a good friend. I wish there were less social stigma around casual sex and non-monogamous relationships, especially for women. I have had to stop talking about it to certain people because they find it absolutely appalling, even some kinky friends. At my age, people expect you to have settled into a marriage and/or family. Maybe it’s because I’m a late bloomer. Or, maybe some people just like being a childless, unencumbered, hot piece of ass well into their golden years.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great idea! I appreciated your Ted Talk. I’ll be curious what else you learn from this social sexual experiment. I’m going to burn some hours reading stories here, that’s for sure.

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