by

What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Contracting
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 42
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Bumble, Then Car Head

How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 year ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met her on bumble when visiting family back in my home country. She was 12 years older than me. My ex-fiancee who had broken up with me a year prior still weighed heavily on me, and it was exacerbated a bit because her and this girl were only four years apart. She was about 5’1, cute, tan, with lots of tattoos and mixed green-eyed hair.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We matched on bumble and flirted with the idea of meeting up, but I explained to her it was my last night in the country, and my family had to be a priority. Around 2 am, she messaged me again asking if she could come visit to meet and talk. We had both been messaging about our recent break ups, and our desire for physical intimacy with another person, so I assumed she wanted to have sex, which I was thrilled with.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Met her in her car and we started talking. We both clicked, and when the mood was right I kissed her. She was all about it, and we moved to her car. After some dry humping (apparently she told me she came just from that), I told her I wanted to fuck her, but she was on her period and didn’t feel comfortable doing that. I suggested oral, but then she wanted to just leave as is, so I wouldn’t remember her as a one night stand. I thought to myself, “wtf, you just wanted to fuck five minutes ago”. Somehow, I was able to convince her to suck my dick. She sucked me off in the backseat of her Mazda until I came. Funnily enough, she stopped sucking as soon as I was about to come to ask if I was close, so I ended up ejaculating onto her face, mouth, hair, and some parts of the car interior.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We messaged back and forth for a bit, but she told me she wanted me to visit again as she thought she was falling in love with me. Not ready for another relationship at all, I slowly backed off from replying. She’s a good girl, and I’d love to meet up with her again.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I messaged my group chat of friends (men and women) to explain my dry spell ended.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The experience of giving an unplanned facial.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My leg started to cramp when I got close to orgasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It made me feel like I was desirable as a person after my fiancee left me for a fat Australian.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? No

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s starting to gain acceptance, especially with younger people.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? The stories are great to read, it’s almost as fun as being on Reddit.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

Comments