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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Casual Sex Made Me Feel Sexy Again

How long ago did this hookup happen? Two months

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A month after getting dumped by my first boyfriend, I matched with an old acquaintance from school. We met up for coffee and ended up going back to his place having sex twice. It was fantastic. It was some of the best I’ve ever had. I left his place in an uber without my underwear (lost it in his room) at 1 in the morning, with a massive hickey and a mutual agreement to do it again sometime.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I wasn’t sure we were going to hook up, but I had brought condoms just in case. We started making out and one thing lead to another.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Unlike my ex, he was really good in bed. It was hot and rough and lasted a reasonable amount of time. We cuddled and had snacks in between rounds.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We’ve been friends with benefits for about two months now and this is the happiest I’ve been in a long time.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they seemed to be split on the subject

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? That now I have someone who’s dtf at least every couple of weeks, no strings attached.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing that I can think of was bad at all.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I always thought I would get too emotionally attached to have casual sex, but so far that hasn’t been the case. Turns out I’m happier now having casual sex than I was in a relatively serious relationship.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? This person said more nice things about my looks, my body and my personality in one night than my boyfriend did in the last half of our six-month relationship.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex now, and I think it’s deeply unfair that it is so widely accepted for people to shame those who engage in it. I’ve even had well-meaning friends tell me that I should wait for a serious relationship instead, even though I have NO interest in that at this point in life. My current arrangement is what works best for me.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s a great platform to share stories.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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