What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? n/a
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 8
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 8 months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met on Tinder. He has gorgeous bone structure and beautiful, piercing eyes that are constantly changing color. We had been talking via text/Snapchat and it eventually evolved into sexting and a bit of Skype sex before we met in person. He is really easy to talk to, so I honestly felt like I knew him decently well before we met in person.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met him at his university to hang out. He was planning on taking me out for a nice dinner and was going to bring wine, but I met him earlier in the day. We walked around campus a bit and talked, then went to his dorm. We were talking for a bit and he eventually got up to get some water, and when he came back, he kissed me. It was really nice for me, especially because I had just come off a two-year long relationship with a guy to whom I had lost my virginity and even with whom I had my first kiss. Seeing this guy be forward with me felt really good.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out and, honestly without much foreplay, we just went for it. We had sex in missionary at first, and then I offered to get on top. Now, from our Skype sex and everything, he had always warned me that he takes a while to orgasm. However, two minutes into sex, I got on top and he almost immediately came. I was really surprised, I saw his face get all strange and asked him if he was ok, and he was like “fuck I just came.” He seemed to feel really bad. I did not care at all, he was just so passionate in bed and we eventually went again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we had some of the most incredible pillow talk. We talked for probably 4-5 hours until we decided to get some dinner. I was just so happy. I had been having a really hard time after my breakup, and this guy was definitely an incredible way to rebound. I really wanted to date him for some time, but he was also almost 22, a junior in college, and I was 18, soon to enter college. That didn’t feel quite right, and in some ways the maturity levels weren’t matching up. He’s a really incredible guy to talk to, and he was really great to me the whole time we were hooking up, which I think in some ways upset me because I knew we could never date and I felt like I was really missing out on him. I am still friends with him, but we do not talk too much. Whenever we do, he is the same and is absolutely wonderful. We also hooked up many times after this.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends. They reacted well.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? HIs kindness and how inspiring he was.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I knew it would never become more than a hookup.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, he was the first guy I had casual sex with, and he also got me into some kinkier stuff as we continued to have sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? n/a
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I am absolutely ok with casual sex, but I usually don’t like one-night stands. Maybe I’m more of a relationships person, but I like when I have a partner who knows what I’m into and I can have a conversation with. Casual sex is becoming increasingly more accepted, especially as I look around my college campus.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this is really interesting and forward-thinking!
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