What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Hospitality
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? I’m bisexual but I have a preference for women.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Three weeks ago, early March
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was 5’7″ tall, coal black hair and beard, 32 years old and average in size. I was staying in a hotel out of town and I was horny. I started looking on Craigslist Casual Encounters. He was in town on business for the week. I like his ad so I contacted him. He came to my hotel when he got off work. I was excited for the hook-up. I had only slept with my girlfriend for the last three years. This was the first time I’d wanted to sleep with anyone since our breakup.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He is the one who posted the ad on Craigslist and I answered it. All it said was: “32 year old handsome male in town on business looking for a no strings attached hook-up.”
The add had his phone number. I texted him a paragraph describing myself and sent a non-nude picture of myself. Once he finished up his work that evening, he met me at my hotel and I snuck him in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We get in my hotel room, and he was like, “Are you ready to do this?” I said yes. We both stripped down to our undergarments. I got in bed and he got on top of me. We started kissing and fondling each other. He was very sweet, rough and self-conscious all at the same time. I asked him to bite me hard and he did. My nipples were sore for about 2 weeks. He ate me out and fingered me. He was a pro at both. He tried penetrating me but I made him wear a condom and he couldn’t stay hard with it on. I was hoping to get fucked but even though he couldn’t, he still spent an hour getting me off with his mouth and hands. I asked him if he wanted to see how I get off my myself. He watched me masturbate with my massager on my clit. He also fingered me while I used it.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt bad for him not getting off but I’m not risking pregnancy or catching an STD just because someone doesn’t like condoms. He told me he enjoyed himself before he left and kissed me. I have no hopes or dreams of the future with him. I think he was fun regardless of the condom problem so I feel the same about him. He told me he was snipped so I couldn’t get pregnant but he’s a stranger so there isn’t a lot of trust there.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Sterilization
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend, she was surprised and excited. We talk about all of our sexual adventures.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? To feel a man’s body. It had been a long time since I had been with man. I loved the feel of his beard between my thighs.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He couldn’t stay hard with the condom on.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No, I see sex as very black and white. I don’t read between the lines. I love casual sex and I love monogamy.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would let him go down on me again if the opportunity ever arose again.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s healthy. People who aren’t emotionally ready for a relationship still deserve pleasure. I just got out of a serious relationship. I don’t want to jump back in one but I was my physical needs to be met. I think society should be more open to talk about the consequences of not wearing a condom.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I just found it. It seems fun and interesting. I see myself spending alot of time on here lol
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