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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Sydney
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Around 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None

Disappointment

How long ago did this hookup happen? Last week

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? A Southeast Asian guy. Extremely tall and muscular.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So I’ve know this guy for a while now. I only just started in the office start of this year and he’s been there for a couple of years. I was instantly attracted. We work alongside each other so there were plenty of chances to hook up but we never did. The timing was just never right and I always thought he wasn’t into me. Last week we all went round for celebratory drinks with other work mates and he asked if I wanted to go for a walk. It was strange. The whole time at work. We’d been good friends but he never seemed to be interested even though I obviously was. That night at the bar it was like he couldn’t take his eyes off of me. During our work it was a totally different atmosphere than at work. I could see had actually had a big ego. We walked to a busy street and being a self assured guy he hailed a taxi for both of us without even asking me first. Id been so rapt since I started work I agreed.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Totally bad!!!! He was so fast and rough and barely took time to caress me or anything. The minute we stepped into his apartment he kind of shoved me into his bed and stuck himself inside of me. When it was over he practically rolled over and fell asleep. I lay there in shock for a bit.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all

Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Despite the sex I’ve agreed to see him for drinks this Friday. I don’t know why or what I’m going to do.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s)

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends whom I’ve gushed about this guy too for ages.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat

Why do you regret this hookup? I suppose I don’t regret it; it’s just that I’m disappointed and now feel awkward.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to see his dick which I’d been fantasizing about for months (didn’t live up to expectations but I still liked seeing it).

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? My lack of orgasm.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No – I’ve had bad casual sex already.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Not at all positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Love it but I’ve realised I can’t expect amazing sex every time.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Keep it going!

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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