What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 22
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? NE America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Very
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 4
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This was on Tinder. I was so fucking horny that night, I was just swiping left on everyone until I could find the right guy to fuck. After an annoyingly long time I found a guy that fitted what I was looking for that night: over 6’0 (he was 6’3), African American and good looking. I swiped right, and thank GOD it was an instant match.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I went and instantly messaged him that I want to fuck right now. He’s like, I’m in bed right now (it was 2:30AM.) I said idc, I want him right now. He’s like girl there’s no way I’m getting out of my bed. So I asked him for his address, and I decided it was close enough to drive there. So I put on a coat over my chemise and drove to his apartment and he buzzed me in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At his place, I took off my coat and he started flirting with me. I didn’t feel like talking or foreplay, I just went into his room and started kissing him. I removed my chemise and pushed down my panties then started unbuckling his belt and pushing down his pants. He finally started responding around this time and started fingering me. He roughly carried me over to his bed and then fucked me in doggy style. There was no need for foreplay, I was super wet. He was super well endowed and I came, and a few minutes later he came inside me too. We both like passed out after it, but later that night I woke him up by sucking his dick. I then got on top and rode him until he came again.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? By the morning I was satisfied so I just left. He messaged me again and we talked for a bit but we haven’t met again as currently I’m looking for new experiences.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My bff. I gave her this guys number and they might hookup soon too. I told my bf and my current FWB as well. My FWB was positive, my bf meh.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The fact we barely talked and had awesome sex. Guys usually try to talk me up and it’s really annoying because often if they are hot enough I don’t want to talk I just want to have sex. So it was awesome to take matters into my own hands.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Everything about it was good. I guess the worst thing was he wasn’t as rough as I would have liked.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Lately I’ve just been mostly having sex with my FWB, David, and sometimes my bf. That got… idk, a little monotonous as I’m still young and should be sexually exploring. This was like my 7th encounter on Tinder since downloading it at the start of this month, and I’m really enjoying meeting and connecting with these guys. This was the first conversation and encounter that I initiated which really is a positive and important experience for a woman to have, I feel. It felt empowering.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? My first African American guy. I’m pretty happy that I’m being more diverse in my choices now.
Also my 50th partner I think, it’s getting a bit hard to remember lol. Which probably means I should stop…
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Well when I was young I was raised to think casual sex was bad due to my religion. Then I slowly came to the realization that my religion isn’t actually against casual sex, only the old patriarchs were. I personally enjoy it and have slowly gotten rid of the indoctrination that it’s a dirty thing. That still hasn’t entirely happened and to some level I am ashamed of my number of partners even though I know I shouldn’t be. For males it would just be a positive thing to have a high number of partners, which is a double standard which I wish would just go away already.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Its a great site!
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