What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I first encountered A in a seminar room at work in which a game of the 2010 World Cup was being screened live. I was supporting Germany, having just witnessed their destruction of England, but being Dutch, she was pulling for the men in orange. Anyway, we exchanged only a few words and I forgot about her until I bumped into her in the cafeteria a week later. Later the same day, we ran into each other on the metro home and discovered that we lived close to each other. She was very attractive but I was married.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We ran into each other a few times in the cafeteria and casually discussed our work. It turned out that she needed some advice in my area of expertise so I invited her over to my office to discuss. There was clearly some chemistry between us and the atmosphere was thick with an undercurrent of sexual tension. After we chatted about her work, it was quite late and we decided we should probably head out. She gave me a hug and before we knew it, we were kissing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Kissing A was like I imagine being on drugs to be – it was an almost out of body sensation. I ran my hands slowly down her back and over her butt, and my cock started to bulge in my shorts, which I felt sure she must notice. She was wearing a short skirt and I couldn’t help but slip my hands under it to grasp her butt. I could feel that she wanted more but wasn’t sure if she should. I moved my hand around to the apex of her legs and gently rubbed her through her panties. She was soaking wet, more than I ever experienced before – I slid her panties to one side and my fingers were soaked in her pussy juices before I could even slide them inside her. At this point my cock was throbbing and she undid my shorts and let them drop to the floor. She pushed me into my desk chair, straddled me and slid right down into my cock. It was the most exquisite feeling I’ve ever had – the wettest, tightest, most incredible pussy. We fucked almost in slow motion, long lingering movements as she rode my cock and soaked my balls with her juices. It was impossible to last too long and when we came, it was earth shattering – I’ve never cum so hard or so much inside someone or experienced such a wet pussy. After we recovered our compares, she slid off me and rivers of cum mixed with her own pussy juices ran down her legs. After a brief clean up, we took the metro home together while she attempted not to leave a puddle on the seat.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? It was incredible. We are no longer in touch, but I will always remember it as the best sex of my life.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My best friend. I confessed that I’d cheated on my wife but that we were no longer in contact. He was understanding as a similar thing had happened to him.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I never intended to hurt anyone, but A wanted more than just sex, which I couldn’t offer.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was out of this world.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Hurting A.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Fairly negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think it’s something we maybe should be more open to. Everyone has needs and desires and too often it is stigmatized.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great to read other people’s stories.
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