What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 41
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Scotland
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Engineer
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
Ex-colleague wanted to find out
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3months
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We worked together many years ago, kept in touch ever since with the odd email, text or phone call. Although there existed an attraction between us, we never acted upon it, but would verbally tease each other from time to time. She was average height, slim, fantastic arse, small but very pert breasts. And she liked to fuck and tell me about it if she’d had what she called “well taken care of at the weekend”, which I have to be honest got me horny as hell, which she knew fine well, but still we never crossed any boundaries at that time.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? As I said we hadn’t seen each other for many years, but we did kept in touch from time to time and she would still like to tell me of her special weekends. One Saturday afternoon she sent a text to say, “you’ll never guess who I brought home last night”. It turned out to be a local footballer well known for having more than his fair share of women. So I casually asked if he lived up to his reputation, to which she replied “he knew what to do, but I expected him to be bigger”. To which I jokingly replied, smaller than mine, the text quickly came back saying, “I don’t know you’ve never shown it to me, how’s your chance, drop me a pic of it” so I decided what the hell and duly sent a pic as requested. The reply was very good for my ego, followed by to think of al those wasted years when we sat together and I’d no idea you had that hiding.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Several weeks later I received a phone call, “where are you right now” I was 15 minutes drive from her home, when I asked why, the reply was I cant stop looking at your picture and I want it, and I’m hoping you could come over right now, as I might not have the courage to ask again. The 15 minute drive was covered in 10-11 minutes. As I arrived outside she texts to say the door is open, just come straight in. I walked in through the door and she was smiling nervously, as was I, she stood up walked towards me and without any words, we began kissing each other and our hands were everywhere, as I reached under her short skirt and put my hand between her legs I discovered she had no panties on, she was wet, very wet. I stopped pulled my head back looked at her and she said I’ve been warming myself up since we talked on the phone. I unbuttoned my jeans and pulled then down along with my boxers, I then turned her around, she leaned over the back of the sofa, and I put my shaft deep inside her. It was frantic and rough, As she said, I asked you here so do what I want. We fucked on every sofa, chair table, from the sitting room through into the kitchen, she sat on the kitchen worktop and I fell to my knees and ate her pussy like it was my first meal in weeks, she was pulling my hair, scratching my shoulders whilst pressing my mouth against her. We made our way upstairs, as she walked in front of me I couldn’t resist, to stop her half way up, and she knew what I was hoping for, she bent over put her hand behind her grabbed my cock and directed it into her ass. It was the most intense sex I’d ever had. We got upstairs and constantly switched from oral, to anal to vaginal, my back was like a cats scratching post, her fantastically well constructed arse cheeks were red as she asked to have them slapped and grabbed as we fucked. The whole afternoon was spent fucking over and over again, even when I showered to get ready to leave, she ended up in beside me and so we began again. It was frantic but fantastic. She was everything you would want in a sexual partner, no holding back telling you how she wanted it asking what I wanted. I ended up just staying the night, we slept in each other’s arms all night long. In the morning there was no regrets from either one of us. Just smiles and discussion on the wasted years we could have been doing this.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? There were no expectations, but we have had several hooks ups since, and all just as good as the first. We have decided it will remain as that a sexual hook up with no other ties between us.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Only to one another, not discussed with anyone else
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? We both got what we expected from it and have maintained our friendship.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? No bad points
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Nope not at all
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Best sexual experience of my life, as was the second and third and fourth hook up
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? As long as it is done safely and without causing emotional distress then I would encourage it
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love the stories and a great platform to share mine
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