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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? China/Shanghai
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Education
What’s your current relationship status? We are currently not in a physical relationship so I’m more single than in a relationship.
Religious affiliation: Believe in something, not sure what
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? exploring into other relms
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

experimenting in bondage. from a slaves point of view

How long ago did this hookup happen? a month

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? meet occasionally to explore BDSM

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, blonde, charming, striking

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We exchanged contact details and started app messages.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We met to buy some toys. Whips, paddles, cuffs, rope. the usual S&M B&D stuff. I took candles and the toys to our first session. I wanted a purely slave to Master experience and he wanted to see what this side of the world was like. I gave him oral. He bound me with ties and beat me with a paddle and poured hot wax on me.
This was all consensual. There were safe words. I got to beg for more and we both really enjoyed the oral. Me giving, him receiving. I enjoyed the beating. Being able to release and not to be judged was great. A real turn on to without having an orgasm. Sex to me isn’t just about intercourse. My Master enjoyed the role. The first time he wasn’t so sure about the beating and administering the beating. But got to enjoy it more over the next several sessions. When we were in a session it was purely about slave to Master. He would ask if I was enjoying it and would make sure I was not in any real danger.He enjoyed exerting his power and liked seeing me as his slave. After our sessions we were normal and just friends. It ended as he got himself a girlfriend. We met about ten times.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I would never stay over. After our sessions, we would have a drink or a chat, grab dinner. Then I would go home. We are friends. No expectations for the future with this person. He’s left the country.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have, To feel better about myself, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power

How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? This hook up is purely between the two of us. No body else knows anything about this.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I learnt a lot more about myself emotionally and physically. I got to explore the darker realms of sex, rather than ‘vanilla sex’ and got to know how far I could push my boundaries. I also learnt how to really please my partner, how to send him into ecstasy. He loved it when I gave him oral sex. He would groan with pleasure and it was a real turn on.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I didn’t get the chance to have sex. I’m not upset that upset about it, but I am curious about it. He would mention about sex he had had in the past with other women.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. Not so much about casual sex. I’m older and don’t have casual sex like I used to in my twenties or even early 30’s

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I would have liked to continue it.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex can be much needed. A real stress release but you have to be safe and mature enough to realise that it’s not love, it’s not serious. As long all parties consent and your partner or yourself know what they are doing, casual sex can be fantastic! In the past it has helped in many ways. Some important ways too.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this project is great.
I think if you translated this into different languages and sent a link via a private email you maybe able to broaden your demographics.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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