What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 25
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? SoCal
Highest education received: High school diploma
What’s your occupation? Actress/Model
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly gay/lesbian
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Strongly prefer women physically; exclusively prefer women romantically
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? several
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How long ago did this hookup happen? four years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (open)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I had a small part in a movie shooting in a foreign country. (No, not telling what country or what movie.) The lead actress, X, has since become very well known. I was introduced when shooting was already underway. She seemed very, very nice, and on set I liked the way she treated crew, especially the few women. No airs or anything. She now has a reputation as something of a feminist which is cool. I didn’t have any scenes with her but I did watch some and she is really really talented. I thought she was attractive but not crazy hot…very unique looks, kinda asexual in a way. No real vibe from her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a script assistant, A, I was flirting with when I could who turned out to be straight. Gaydar not always perfect and even though it’s fun to pretend I can have any girl I want the truth is that, amazingly enough, there still ARE straight girls around. Anyway X invited A and a couple of women crew members out for a drink, A told me to come, X said oh yeah come on and we went for beers one evening. X drank a couple and started to loosen up…she went to the rest room and when she came back she sat next to me and we talked for an hour easy, mostly acting talk. As we were talking she started touching me, you know, my hand, or shoulder and I started to think she might be into me. That led to me getting horny towards her. Then she told me she thought I was beautiful. It felt really cool to be desired by a strong woman. The party broke up and I was walking along the street with her and she suggested we have a drink at the hotel bar. We did that and then she invited me up to her room.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We had sex in her room. She was VERY into it, VERY much a lez. Usually I am a top but she was very dom that night, although not manic or anything. She definitely took charge and was definitely experienced. She sucked my boobs for the longest time and fingered me and I came. She was bemused at how easily I came then and several other times that night. She did oral nicely and showed me exactly what she wanted from me and how. She was pretty quiet when she came when I was tonguing around her clit but louder when she humped me later. She got really into it. We fucked for over an hour. Then she talked…talked a lot. Told me personal stuff that I won’t share here except it was obvious that she had (has) some serious issues about her sexuality. I was what she needed when she couldn’t repress it anymore, and it was good and all, but she struck me as a pretty mixed up woman who had no real intimacy in her life, was absolutely in the closet and wasn’t coming out no way no how. I empathized, and maybe because I’m in the business and for sure worry about being pigeon-holed as “that lez actress” she thought she could open up to me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I went back to my room. The rest of the shoot she was pretty stand-offish but I understood…she had had to let go, and now she had to close up again. I have seen her three or four times since then, and once (kind of a surprise to me) we had lunch together and never once spoke of the fact we had fucked. My feelings towards her are ambivalent. I think I’m just a micro dot on her radar screen. I suspect that she did get me an audition for a part in one of her movies although nothing panned out. Honestly I liked her more before she became famous.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I never talked to anyone about it. The last thing X needs is gossip about her sex preferences.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? Well, she was so physically needy it was a little off-putting, and I wasn’t super attracted to her even though she became famous and is in fashion magazines and so on. I have fucked many many more attractive women. The main thing though is she seems to me so very unhappy.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I liked how she sucked my breasts, and it was cool to be desired, even though it was a little objectifying.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Something weird and uncomfortable about it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think it made me aware of how motivations can be so different. I don’t think X fucks hot girls routinely. In fact she has a boyfriend. Beard? Real? I have no idea. I think every so often she just needs it, infrequently I suspect. That is weird to me since I need it all the time. It shows how different people are.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Yeah, when I went back to my room it was almost like it had never really happened. My thoughts/fantasies flipped to A as I lay in bed the next morning before a late call. God I would have liked to get into her pants!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have written about this before. I am sure there are some acquaintances of mine who think I am just a slut. I think that is another way to put down women, and women are experts at putting down other women. I stopped worrying about being a slut a long time ago but it is still a curse women who are active deal with.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Actually it makes me wish I could write a book about my experiences, anonymously of course. It’s like talking to a therapist or something.
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