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What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 40
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 100+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

First BJ & Doggystyle

How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met at summer camp when I was 14 and she had just turned 18. About 5’1 with extremely long brown hair and very large breasts, usually concealed under a hoodie. Found out after camp that she liked me and got in contact with her.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I had visited her once, but nothing happened as we both had friends with us. I got a girlfriend over the winter and lost my virginity, then after I was single again she came and visited me. Stayed at my place, and she definitely took the lead.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We were on my bed making out and she got my pants off and went right for my dick with her mouth. I remember feeling like a king as I lay on my back enjoying it, with her long hair draped all over me to keep it out of the way. She didn’t stop until I came in her mouth and she swallowed, and I think I actually jumped up on the bed after and celebrated. She told me she wasn’t done with me once I laid back down, and straddled me. I got hard again almost immediately and she rode me for a while, until we flipped over, and then I awkwardly got her to move into a doggie style position. I had the most satisfying orgasm I’d ever had that way. I loved the way her large breasts swung heavily in that position. They were much larger, softer and more mature than what I’d encountered beforeally. Talked about how awesome it was after, and that it was my first bj and doggie style. She slept over.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We hooked up one more time at her place a few months or more later. Distance between us kept it to what it was. Good person, great memories.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Probably a few friends at the time or over the years.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The firsts.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? No complaints

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Like all experiences, it guides the road ahead

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Communication, acceptance and removing the cultural stigma is important.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good idea.

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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