What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? India
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? designer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I have known him for a few months now. I had hooked up with him before. He is kinda out of my league or so I thought. He is my friend’s roommate. I had liked him before and that’s why I had consented it. I was hoping it would lead somewhere.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He invited me to go out with his friends. I was bored so I went along. I had fun and I was hoping I would get laid that day.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Vaginal. It was my first time, so it was a little painful. It felt good. I was glad to have gotten it over with. He was good to me. It did not feel as if he was just using me for my body. It felt genuine and I was happy. We talked about a lot of meaningless stuff.. and then I passed out.. I don’t remember how i fell asleep
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We spent the day with his friends again. It was a little boring, maybe because I wasn’t drunk. I wasn’t hoping for a relationship but I wished we would become a bit closer now. He had the tendency to be a little distant when we were apart. We are no longer in contact and even though I do not regret this hookup, I do not have the same feeling I once used to have for him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, I don’t know if my partner was on any (other) method
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, Intoxication, Everyone else was/is doing it, Peer pressure
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I talked to two of my close friends and both were fairly excited.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I felt wanted at that time and now I am not as clueless about this subject as I used to be.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish we would’ve continued a bit more than we did. I wish my first was not just a fuck buddy.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It has made me realize a lot about what I like and dislike in bed. Opened new horizons for me.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? it is okay for people to do it if they keep their feeling in check and consent to it for the right reasons.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? interested in it.. looking forward to read about this research.
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