What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 37
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Manchester
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Teacher
What’s your current relationship status? I’m a cheat
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? Can’t remember
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
First Love Revisited
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Complicated!!!!
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Sam was and is the love of my life. We lost each other due to miscommunication and circumstances keep us apart now.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The wonder of Facebook led us to reconnect. We had been lovers 20 years ago. Private messages flew back and forth. It was a glorious revelation to find out he still wanted me. We arranged to meet in the car park where our teenage shenanigans had taken place.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We sat for an hour. Small talk and reminiscences. I had black lace lingerie on in case he tried something. I was terrified he would. Devastated he didn’t!
We’d been stalking round each other for an hour, until it was time to leave. His hand was next to the gear lever, mine too. He put his little finger over mine, I reciprocated. We gazed into each other’s eyes and 20 years melted away and we kissed like kids again! He sucked the breath from me! I knew then, we had to make something of this- too much emotion to leave it. There’s more, but for another day.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We agreed to meet up again. And have been lovers since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? God no!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Rekindled lost love and lost youth.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? We can’t be together due to commitments which are more important than our love!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Very negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Casual sex with ransoms is fine. But when you catch feelings it sucks!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Really don’t care.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Cracking!
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