What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 40+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
First time having Anal sex and it was Amazing!!!!
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met him one night doing some shopping at a 24hr Tescos. He approached me while I was leaving with my shopping. At first, I wasn’t feeling him. I didn’t really give him much eye contact because it was late, I was tired, and I just wanted to get home. (Plus my bags were heavy.) However, he was polite and funny and wasn’t being sexual straight away, which is a turn-off, so I took his number. I decided the to text him once I got home. He wanted to face time, which was good because I still didn’t really know what he looked like, plus I hadn’t taken off my wig or makeup. We facetimed for about 6 hours and long story short, I fell for his personality. He was really lovely and still after the whole 6 hours on Facetime, there was no sex talk. I love it because it makes me want to have sex with him more. On face time he was really cute and he was at work so I enjoyed watching him in his element. He was the manager. After 6 hours of Facetime, I was starting to like him. He had the funniest personality and he was a gentleman. He also literally lived 5 mins away from me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Now it’s a month later and we have been going out on numerous dates. We really liked each other, so for our 5th date, he invited me back to his after for a drink because he was literally down the road from me. We also wanted to catch up on our EastEnders. After a few drinks, I was in his bed. I was fully clothed because I got in and I was tired and I wasn’t worried about getting home because it was down the road. He came to cuddle and one thing led to another. He asked if I wanted to try anal now. Bare in mind me and him had spoken about it in the past and I was a bit apprehensive because all I’ve seen online are scary first stories. But anal has always turned me on mentally so I really wanted to try it. He got me prepared through the appropriate foreplay, with one finger at a time and a lot of lube. When I was ready, he slowly pushed it in, but nothing was happening. I realized that my body was clenching itself as I was nervous. So I took a deep breath and relaxed and it kind of popped in. The first couple of seconds were painful, as I’m not going to sugar coat it. But once I got the hang of it, it felt amazing. Like overbearingly amazing! To think all this time I was warned off anal because of first time stories on the internet. This is why I’m sharing mine. It was clean. There wasn’t a smell. It was thoroughly enjoyable, and it somewhat made me feel closer to him because I gave him that first experience and trusted him enough to do it with him. I think I’m falling in love. It’ss like losing your virginity and expecting it to be a painful mess but it was really an amazing and pleasurable experience.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hook up, we cuddled and kissed. And I fell asleep and woke up a couple hours later to him watching Netflix, and we had sex again, but just vaginal this time as we had run out of lube.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device), Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’m talking to you guys 🙂
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The orgasms and emotional connection
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He wanted to see me naked (me and my self-conscious annoying self), but I did get naked because he liked it.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I feel more comfortable with myself. I looked in the mirror today full naked and smiled. I’m still smiling. Just from amazing anal sex, naked sex. Who knew!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Casual sex has always been my thing. I meet guys, date for a while, and have casual sex and it kind of fizzleszles out. I’m not a fan of serious relationships because then cheating becomes a thing and then there are things to argue about.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s amazing! I love how it’s giving people a platform to be more open about casual sex. Everyone does it. And no, it doesn’t make you a whore.
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