What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 52
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Professor
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Passionate, Pleasure my Partner means Pleasure for me also.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 6
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Flight In The Tardis
How long ago did this hookup happen? 30 days
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Older than me, blonde, about 5’4″ tall, not fat, not skinny, little extra to hold on to, blue eyes, hair is naturally curly, long torso, short legs, breasts fit in your mouth with no extra so no waste. Highly intelligent, smart, conniving, planner.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Nann and I have worked together for over 4 years, and we work very closely together. As such we have found that we have a lot in common, we are both nerdy, both into all things Star Wars, Dr. Who, and other science fiction series and books. We talk a lot about it and have spent time walking in the park near our university, or on campus discussing things.We share a combined office space, that is secure and enclosed and locked, you have to have a pass key to get in. Eventually, our conversations moved from general stuff that we had in common to sharing some of the challenges in our lives, and then crossing a line about challenges in our marriages. In the end, we both know more about each other than we should and we both have had hidden emotions, longings that we have suppressed though always the heavy tension of not acknowledging our emotions and the sexual tension that exists between us is present.
About a month ago, I was in the office, summer break though we were co-teaching a summer class and Nann came in. We got ready for our class and as we got ready to go to the classroom, Nann asked, “Hey, after class can I have a moment?” “Sure” I replied.
Our class went well, and afterward, we returned to our office and there Nann and I put out stuff away. Nann then turned to me and said “I am tired of pretending” and with that came right at me, hugged me tightly and kissed me long and passionately. I returned the kiss hungrily with our tongues darting back and forth from our mouths. For the next five minutes we kissed, and I felt her hand touch my crotch, as I drew my hand to her right breast and began to gently squeeze.
“My husband is out of town on business for the next seven days, come over now.” Nann directed, almost ordering me. “Are you sure?” I asked. We are both married, though mine is a sexless marriage and her’s is sex by appointment that lasts only the 5 minutes it takes her husband to ejaculate in her. That and his porn addiction and affairs from that had destroyed most of the trust in their marriage. Holding my eyes with her firm blue eyes that pierced my soul she said “Yes.”
We drove to her house, I arrived first since I tended to drive faster and I had a copy of her garage opener that she had shared, and I parked in the garage, closing the door. Nann pulled in shortly afterward and closed her garage door and we went up the two stairs and she opened the door from the garage to the house. Inside, I shut the door and Nann took me by the hand and led me down the hall to the master bedroom. There a king size bed was positioned, and Nann drew me in. Again letting go of all the sexual tension that for months and years had existed between us, our passion exploded. As we french kissed, Nann removed my shirt, my tee shirt, and I her blouse and bra. I undid her pants and removed them and her panties and she stepped out of them. Nann now undid my belt buckle and the button on my pants, and my zipper, and in one motion removed them from my body. Socks came off last and then we stood there, close to each other, kissing and looking.
Now a man in his 50’s and a woman in her late 50’s to 60 who exercise, but the tolls of life are real and we are not the models or body builders or youthful bodies from years past as we stood by each other. I have some pounds on me, and I could tell that Nann had given birth to 4 kids (adults now) and had some extra pounds around her waist and thighs. Then again, that is the wonder of middle age, who cares. It was the passion we felt that mattered as I embraced her, and felt my now erect penis jump up my her vagina. We kissed like I haven’t kissed since my early 30’s and we sat down on the bed.
Nann stated, “I’ve wanted and planned for this day for a LONG time.”
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? At this point, I looked at Nann, and said “Me too” and as she slowly stroked me, Nann asked, “What have you wanted for so long?” I knew a short quick answer of “You” wouldn’t cut it so I was honest. “To kiss your lips, to feel your tongue in my mouth, to see you naked with me, to surrender to the passion both emotionally and sexually I feel for you. To share and be together.” Nann smiled and said, “Yeah about time isn’t it?” To that, I laughed as she did and we kissed again.
Now we laid down side by side and Nann continued to play with my penis. We kissed and I moved my right hand down from her breast, past her navel and began to explore her vagina. I got a slight moan and Nann said, “You said you go for 40 to 45 minutes for sex, you better keep your word.” I had said that, and I usually did take that long. So for the next 20 minutes, we explored each other’s body, communicating what we liked or wanted and had one of the best foreplay sessions in our lives. I had asked Nann what positions she liked for intercourse and she had told me missionary and on top, though she wanted to try spooning if she ever found the right man. I believe she felt my hesitancy on what position and she moved onto her back. “I want you like this” Nann whispered. I moved into a kneeling position and Nann took my now totally erect and hard penis and guided it inside of her vagina. I moaned as I entered her, it had been too damn long since I had made love to a woman, a woman who equally wanted me as much as I wanted her. Nann also moaned and slowly I begin to push in all the way and I held it there for a moment, before withdrawing about 3/4 of the way out, and slowly pushing my penis all the way back inside of her.
Nann uttered “So thick” and yes, I have a very thick penis. We began to now go back and forth and we interlocked our fingers together in both hands we made love. No closing of our eyes, her blue eyes held my brown eyes and vice versa. I could see her passion, her desire and her love for me there, and I know she saw the same from me as she winked at me. I sped up my pace and then slowed down, and sped up and slowed down when I felt my cum ready to erupt inside of Nann. This turned Nann on more and sure enough, for 25 minutes we made passionate love.
I now began to increase my pace and as I did so I saw Nann’s nipples on her breasts go hard. Then that wonderful pinkish color flushed her skin, starting from her breasts and chest, going up her neck, to her cheeks and face. I felt my penis getting harder again, as my sperm and cum filled my penis. Nann now closed those eyes, and wrapped her legs around me, pulling down on top of her. Faster she thrust my penis in and out and said “GO!” and go I did. She moaned in pleasure and I felt her body convulse and felt her vagina squeeze my penis several times, and she screamed out “Oh Oh OH OH OH !!!!” and “Yeah, YES” and her legs squeezed me, her vagina squeezed my penis and I erupted deep inside her vagina, over and over again, as I moaned loudly in pleasure.
We kissed and when I went to withdraw, Nann didn’t let me, she kept milking my penis with her vagina, and kissing me. She then turned on the TV, and brought up Prime or Netflix and turned on Dr. Who. We now talked and watched Dr. Who as we laid together in pure afterglow. I asked Nann what she wanted to do the rest of the day and she said, “What the hell do you think?” “Watch Dr. Who?” I replied. “Sure, and the bed is the Tardis and I am going to screw your brains out all day here in the Tardis!” With that we began to kiss, to touch, and to make love again all the while with Dr. Who on in the background. Who cared, we didn’t watch much Dr. Who that day. We made love 3 more times that day, and then every day after class we spent at her house making love two to four times each day.
Her husband travels frequently and when he does, we end up doing it at her house. Sometimes we do this hook up at my house since no one is home during the day. Sometimes at a hotel and once at our office. The office was scary as we don’t want to be caught at work but we had to try it. We stripped, got each other turned on which is rather easy, and Nann rode me in a wonderful old chair with no arms that we have in the office.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Nann and I have found that our hook ups have released us from the drudgery of our married lives and the trappings that go with them sexually. I was trapped in a sexless marriage to a woman I love, but to whom I am more of a business partner with. Nann is married to a former porn addict and cheater who got help, but she doesn’t trust him and he tried to compensate for his lack of sexual performance by turning to porn and other women. The end is we find we keep our families, especially our adult children and grandchildren protected while engaging in behavior that we find most enjoyable, desirable and with a person we are deeply attracted to in every way. So yes, we have found we can have our cake, and eat it too.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Acknowledging our attraction sexually and otherwise to each other
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one. Loose lips could end the ongoing hook up.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? First, that we acknowledged that we were attracted emotionally, mentally, physically and sexually to each other. That we truly could have been a couple under the right circumstances. That we have both found an outlet with someone we care about, are attracted to and enjoy having sex with and being with that fulfills that part of our lives. Last, it just feels damn good to get laid on a regular basis by someone who cares about you and wants the same thing.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing. Maybe the uncertainty of the future of whether we will last but for now, it is the plan to keep the affair going as long as we both can over the next 20 years.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yeah, I should have acted on this a LONG time ago and not try to put off my emotions, feelings, and desires. Nann had the same and we both knew it and we should have just let them out and we would have enjoyed what we have even longer.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I look forward to not only making love to Nann but spending time with her, talking with her, making her laugh, sharing and yeah, screwing the hell out of each other and bringing her the sexual pleasure she deserves and has wanted for such a long time.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I have always felt better when sex is open when I can find someone to share it with and who wants to share it with me. It’s improved my marriage, I am not trying to hit on my wife who doesn’t want it at all and that has made our marriage better. For Nann, she still once a month has to put up with her husband being on her for 5 minutes, but that is a small sacrifice to the 12 to 16 days a month we have sex. Also, overall, she isn’t hitting on him for her interests since I fulfill them and he can do his hobby, wood working.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Good stuff.
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