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by Ana

What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 27
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? East Coast
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Sales
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bi curious
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 12-14
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 2

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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 nights ago

What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call

How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I’ve been feeling sexually bored so I made an anonymous POF account. Anyone I had interest in, I would agree to snap chat and share pics that way. Anyway he seemed fun and sexy from his pics and we started chatting and made plans to meet for dinner and drinks. I arrived first and was relieved to sit at the bar and have a drink to loosen up a bit. I was equally relieved when he arrived and was as attractive in person as in his pics. We sat and drank and shared food and had a pretty fun conversation flowing, got to know each other a bit, and slowly it became more flirty in tone and we were sitting closer, touching more. He has all these tattoos and a forked tongue which I was highly curious about. The restaurant was winding down so it was time to go. I was pretty drunk at this point and tend to get silly and well just plain retarded but he claimed later to have found this cute. Pretty sure he kissed me briefly at this point also. I may have also showed him a text from my friend urging me to be sure to use a condom as my way of letting him know I wanted to hook up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? So we walked out to the parking lot and come to find out he apparently drives a huge work van. Claims he can fit his motorcycle into it and that its practical blah blah blah. Since we couldn’t Go back to either of our places, drunken me was just happy to have a place to bang in. He said he knew a place nearby and I plugged my phone in and started playing some sexy Lana del Rey tunes and then the conversation got straight dirty. He stopped for condoms and said we could park nearby at his friends house. As he was driving I kneeled over and while kissing his neck reached down and he helped me open his pants and I started sucking his cock until we parked.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? So we parked on some dark street but I was paying zero attention to my surroundings to be honest. He got in the back to unroll a yoga mat and before he was done I had my pants and shirt off. The rest is a little bit of a blur. I do remember how kinky and how much a freak he is which is exactly what I crave sexually. He ate my out and licked my ass a lot, and then put his finger in my ass while he fucked me from behind. He wanted me to sit on his face and ride him. He spanked me hard. He talked dirty to me, begged me to come for him. Wanted me to squat over him and ride him but I couldn’t balance well , probably because I was so drunk. We got back into doggy style and he hooked his fingers into either side of my mouth, just seriously raw kinky dirty sex where he just took control.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After we both came I think we kissed a little and got dressed. Before he put his pants back on he showed me the plethora of tattoos that he has around his thighs and cock that I could sort of see in the dark earlier but got a better look at them. As we were leaving, his friend apparently was pulling into his driveway so he backed up to say hello. We all found the situation pretty funny and my hook up was pretty frank that we were a POF date and just hooked up and had a laugh. He gave me a cigarette which seemed appropriate even though I don’t usually smoke. He took me back to my car and kissed me deeply, I could feel the fork in his tongue swirling around mine, before we parted ways. We are still texting and have plans to meet up again, maybe get a room sometime hopefully sooner than later. How I feel about him? He’s sexy and a great fuck and someone I want to have fun with from time to time.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom

How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted

What substances did you consume? Alcohol

How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high

What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I was texting a couple of my girlfriends about it. They laughed etc , one seemed concerned that I got in a ‘rape van’ with this guy. Probably not smart but hey I survived… Haha.

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Getting to have freaky sex with a hot ass guy.

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That it was in the back of a van. My knees hurt after that.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Just reinforced why I’m trying to end my marriage and have the freedom to explore my sexuality and different partners and not have to sneak around or feel guilty.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? When someone tells your their age or occupation online, take it with a grain of salt!
He lied about these things but came clean in person. But it’s because he is in the military and we live near a big base and I have seen this before quite a bit mostly because military guys have a bad reputation with the locals. So i understood. Plus I have a thing for military guys so it was a pleasant surprise.

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I wish people could be more honest and open with themselves and others about human sexuality, it’s fluid nature, and that it doesn’t always have to be deeply tied to emotions or love to be enjoyable or meaningful or significant.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Obsessed. Read it all the time and post whenever I hook up with someone.

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