What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? South America
What country and/or city do you live in? Guadalupe
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (currently pursuing)
What’s your occupation? Artist
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Wiccan / Pagan
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Two were schoolmates, one I met on the street at daytime, crossing the street.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Tinder
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We looked into each other’s eyes, constantly smiling. We ordered some food and both thought it was tasteless. We laughed and drank one glass of wine followed by one margarita. We took an Uber to his hotel, he was visiting my country. We slept together, had breakfast together and met the day after for dinner at my house. He was supposed to take his plane back to France that day but he couldn’t get on the plane because of a Visa problem. He stayed one more night with me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? He opened my heart again to the thought of being emotinally involved as a partner. That’s when I fell in love with him. We continued chatting for over two months and started making plans to meet. Suddenly he got jealous over a male friend I introduced to him over video chat. And from then on, our long-distance disconnection began. I still think and dream of him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Withdrawal, Discussed STI testing history, Exchanged recent STI test results, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Learning new things, experimenting, Thought it was an important experience to have, Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Friends, they were supportive and were inspired by my adventurous spirit.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I opened myself to love again,
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? A lot of miscommunication on account of cultural and language differences.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Will never have unprotected sex again. Not worth the worries.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Adventure,
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Should be in Spanish and French too, Our love languages
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