What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 32
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Business analyst
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Hindu
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Friend Of My Girlfriend
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 years
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew her through my girlfriend. They were roommates earlier. She had a cute face, a very nice shaped ass, and firm boobs. She was totally fit. We were hanging out a lot earlier when we lived in the same city.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? My girlfriend moved out to a different country, but I still continued to hang out with some of her friends. A group of friends which included this girl, Annie. We used to make short trips, get drunk at house parties…I started talking a bit more than before, but there was no spark between us.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We used to go out for dinner as a group, but this day somehow it was only the two of us. She got a bit drunk and shared a story about her dad getting hurt in a fight with her uncle, and she was quite emotional. We had couple more drinks, and while going back home we we were holding hands, which felt quite normal.
But as we were walking back, she started hugging me tight and all of a sudden she was all over me. This was a bit weird considering she was good friend of my girlfriend, but when we reached my place, she asked whether she can come to my apartment, because she’s quite upset and do not want to be alone.
We ended up kissing in the elevator, and she was even grabbing my dick from outside. When we reached home, my roommate was watching TV in the living room. She was friends with him as well, so we sat around and started chatting.
In a while I went to my room to change, and all of a sudden she entered the room and asked me ‘do you have condoms?’
I said yes, and she said: “I feel so horny, I want to fuck.’
She came near me and started kissing me, and in a while she was sitting on the floor and giving me a blowjob. We ended up fucking.
In the early morning, I fucked her in front of the mirror. She came twice.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We we’re pretty cool about it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To cheer myself up, It was easy / convenient, I didn’t want it but was unable to stop it
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Not at all
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my room mate who was watching TV in the living room, while we were fucking inside.. he was shocked , because he’s a common friend of me ,my girlfriend and Annie
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively negative
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? She was my girlfriend’s good friend
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Sex , she had an awesome flexible body , and she was horny all the time ..
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The fact that she was my girlfriend’s good friend
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I more open to it as long as it is without consequences , like this time
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? We met again after so many years , we felt quite close… But sex did not happen even though we had all the circumstances
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Sometimes it helps you fix real relationships
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s really cool , and will help people understand themselves better
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