What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 20
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? London
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student/Waitress
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Bi-curious.
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 13 for sex, 20 + oral
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 months
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Short fling
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was very good looking, almost too much so, his body was perfectly sculpted, he had dark hair, dark eyes which sort of sparkled when he smiled, and a really great smile. I had met him at a bar three weeks prior and we had hooked up afterwards, having really great sex. Before the hook up, I felt excited to be sleeping with him again, because the sex was great last time and he treated me with a lot of respect the first time around, more than I have been used to in the past.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? I met him at a bar with my friends. We ended up sleeping together the same night and having really mind-blowing sex. He left to go to Japan for two weeks and we spoke a lot while he was away. I sent him a couple of naughty pictures and we dirty texted, then we made plans to go for a few drinks and the end result was very much anticipated as well as predictable. We spent the time together at the bar and then went to his house where we proceeded to get more wasted, talk, and eventually go to the bedroom.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It all sort of happened very quickly in terms of clothes coming off. We did a bit of foreplay for a little bit and then proceeded straight to penetrative sex. He is really good at what he does. I love giving men oral so I laid upside down while he fucked my mouth standing up. He came on my breasts and I licked it all up afterwards, which made him hard again and we proceeded to have sex again. Throughout the duration of the night we had sex about 4-5 times. We also tried anal (which was my first time) and he seemed to really love it. Then I surprised him when he went to the bathroom by being naked in his kitchen, so he fucked me against his counter as well. Overall I would say we were moderately kinky, there was no tying up or blindfolding involved (I wish) but the sex was really good. I was close to coming. We also had sex the next morning because I woke him up with a blowjob. In-between each round of sex, we would lie on the bed and talk. He told me that next time he would probably need to use viagra with me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? No, but I was close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I sort of hoped this guy and I could have a regular fling arrangement for when I’d come to visit his city. I live five hours away and that is where I’m currently at university. This has made it pretty annoying for the both of us because we have an intense physical and sexual attraction. He similarly expressed his frustration about this. I also wish I could have stuck around for a bit longer the following day, but I sort of felt as if he wanted me to leave, which I did. I didn’t feel used, and I thought the hook up was great, but I did expect more (as I always do).
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My friends, they are aware I have a very vibrant sex life so they found the story interesting but weren’t particularly amazed about my sexual adventures.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How he consistently treated me with respect, made sure to listen to my bodily queues, and maintained really great conversation throughout.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Afterwards, we texted quite a bit. And then he told me had contracted gonorrhoea. This was not so great, especially because I haven’t had much experience with STI’s. He told me he had got it whilst he was in Japan, which was also annoying because we’d only been separated for a few weeks between hook-ups.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I think this experience taught me a lot. And majority of what it taught me is to have sex with older guys (but always use protection). Guys my age seem to treat women as if they are disposable, and not only that, they automatically will assume you’re in love with them if you god-forbid stay for more than five minutes the following day. I really enjoyed the experience and feel as if he treated me perfectly to maintain a casual-sex vibe but also be really thoughtful. Next time, I would use protection though. My opinion of myself in general hasn’t changed, although now I’m thinking maybe it’s better to recycle the people I sleep with because I feel as if my number is getting a bit too high.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think that more men need to stop regarding casual sex as a woman’s way into a relationship. IF you are having sex for an ulterior motive (as in, anything but the actual action of sex), then yeah – you probably shouldn’t be having casual sex with someone. But for the most part, me and my friends engage in casual sex to fulfill our own sexual desires. I have actually never had a ‘one night stand’ with someone because it’s always ended up being a fling or a fuck-buddy situation, but the casual sex relationship has been maintained through most of my sexual experiences and relationships.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? It’s awesome! More people need to be more open minded about sex.
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