What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Europe
What country and/or city do you live in? Germany
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Adult education
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 16 years
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Sex with an ex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For more than 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We got to know each other at age 14. We became a couple and for both of us it was the first time in a “relationship”. She was a cute, slim, curly girl with an arabic touch and a bit of a troubled family history. Grunge styles. Great sense of humor. I liked her very much back then.
After a couple of months we had our first time together… and it was horrible. I came almost right away and she just let things happened. We were both ashamed afterwards. Our premature sexual relationship never recovered from it i guess. We never talked about it. A few months later i had to move with my parents to another city in another country. Things got even more complicated and we split, but in a friendly way. No drama, just a bit of crying together, hugging and good byes. We lost sight.
About three years later she called me on the phone. She got my number from a friend. I was surprised and happy to hear from her. We chatted, talked about our lives, our plans, laughed a lot. And, since Christmas holiday was ahead, we talked about having some beers on Christmas Eve.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We met in a bar in our hometown. She had changed since back then. She had her locks cut down to a tousled afro, wore tight blue jeans, and a real cool flowered blouse. She looked very mature and sexy. We drank beer, exchanged stories and had quite a blast.
Somehow, as it was getting later and the bar got emptier, because most of the people went home or to the Christmas party in the local nightclub, we started talking about our sex lives. She was telling me about her hookups and that got me in the right mood. So I asked her, if we should go to her or my place. I said it as a joke, but i also hoped for it to work. And it did. She smiled at me, stood up and pulled on her coat. I followed her outside. It was freezing cold. We kissed. The taste of her lips made me horny at once. She whispered that we should go to my place and we went.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We arrived at my parents house and went up the stairs. My parents and my grandmother were already sleeping so we had to be quiet, but yet on the stairs we couldn’t keep our hands of each other. We were kissing our way up to my room, as she grabbed my hard dick through my pants and I touched her fit ass. In my room I pushed her on my bed and started to kiss her allover. We started to undress, constantly kissing, rubbing, moaning. When we were naked at least she pulled out a condom and rolled it over my dick, starting to stroke it hard, pushed me on the bed and with a devilish smile sat on my face. I licked her soaking wet pussy, tasting her juice which made me extremely horny. After a short while she turned around and started to ride me. We changed positions various times, all very sweaty and with heavy breath. We came together and rested arm in arm, still breathing heavily. And we fell asleep.
We woke up together in the morning and immediately started to make out again. I turned her to the side and fucked her from behind, watching her fit, round ass, her slender neck, listening to her moans and feeling her warm, wet, tight pussy more intense than the night before. She came twice and as I came off, my eyes rolled back in my head like never before.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After some more time in bed with some talking about when i would have to leave again with my parents she decided that she should go home for Christmas Day. I went her to the door. We kissed and said goodbye. A few days later I was off and away again.
Again we lost sight. Today we sometimes see each other. We talk, but we are not close. Both our lives went different directions.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some friends. They liked that comeback story.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Fucking with her the right way, finally.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? No.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I don’t know, if she was regretting it afterwards.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Don’t judge and don’t judge yourself for your desires. Just be honest with it and neither leave sexual education to porn industry nor religion.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great.
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