What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? Mixed / Multiracial
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA/Texas
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Accountant
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 50
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Such good sex that I got an IUD
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last Thursday
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is half white, half Mexican, has an amazing beard, thick dark hair. He is thick and about 5’8″. Beautiful lips, soft large hands, and he has a tummy but overall is dark and sexy. I’ve known him for about 3 years, through a female I casually knew – she was his girlfriend briefly but she moved away two years ago. I thought he was sexy back them. I have been attracted to him from the moment I saw him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He goes to a weekly meeting that I go to as well and once I took him but and we started making out but he stopped. I didn’t know why so I just put my shoes on and left. That was 2 years ago. He would sometimes talk to me online but I would still see him at the weekly meeting. The Thursday before Christmas this past year, I wore an incredibly sexy outfit and let my female friends feel me up on the dance floor where he could see. I rubbed all over him and told him he needs to call me so I had him call my phone. Then I texted him 10 mins later asking if he was going to keep me warm that night. He replied: yaasss queen. I let him drive my car back to his place and we started to fuck on his couch but I had a diva cup in so we just got naked and made out in his bed. Not much planning, we just would see each other at the bar & flirt. One time he was there with someone and I sent him a message on fb about him being boo’d up but like two weeks later he sent me a message to call him but I didn’t. He doesn’t have to do much besides stand there because I’m so hot for him. I would always hit on him, stroke him, flirt with him and let him stroke my body on the dance floor.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? During the hookup, he would get me naked pretty quickly. We would always start off watching tv or youtube videos as we drank some more at his place. He would power fuck me because he’s on the thick side. He would bounce really high and just ram into me. I do have a long vagina so it wouldn’t hurt but since I was always drunk I would be really loud. He was more into the sex part. After we found out we are both clean, I would ride him and suck him off and then ride him again. I let him cum on me. We 69ed. He is amazing in bed. He is a great kisser and only once did I get mad for him not kissing me all nasty. One time he was too drunk and tried to fuck me while I was dry which pissed me off but he spit on his dick and I got wet again. We talk about our lives, he actually talks so much that he would have to pause the movies we watched. I was more into the fucking part of our friendship but he always wanted to chill before hand. The first month we would have fuck weekends where we would fuck several times and have multiple orgasms. We’d be sweaty and gross and banging so loud I thought his neighbors would hate us. This past month we would just have sex about 3 times and several times and he didn’t even cum which bothered me.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After the hookup, we would go to sleep. We always would have morning sex. I would feel great. I am extremely attracted to him, my face would even vibrate the next day. I would leave bc he didn’t have any food & he never invited me to eat something with him. We’ve been hooking up the past two months & we’ve never gone anywhere past a concert. The first couple of weekends I would take Plan B since we never wore a condom but eventually, I got an IUD bc we found out either neither of us have STDs so it felt better to fuck without worrying about.
I had no expectations from him bc I already knew he had a kid so he would be semi-available due to his kid visiting him. I would have liked for him to give me more head. Knowing we are STD free makes me enjoy being incredibly nasty with him.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, Plan B / Emergency contraception
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Intoxication, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Power / Dominance, Submission / Relinquishing power, Boredom, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My gay friends loved it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? He is so sexy and he would go multiple rounds.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I wish we would have worn condoms but since we were both clean it was fine. I did end up getting an IUD that my insurance completely paid for.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He would tell me that I was perfect and we would walk around naked. I felt so sexy with him. Sometimes he would hold my hand when we watched movies. It was very sweet. I just felt powerful because he would let me come over after I worked out and shower at his place.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I wish I would have made sure I always had an orgasm. A lot of the sex we had I would be dramatic so he could see me and tell me how sexy I was. It was mostly an ego boost but he would grab me so hard and I enjoyed squeezing on his dick. Even though I didn’t have an orgasm it was a lot of fun for me.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I didn’t tell anyone past my gay guy friends because my closest friend wasn’t having sex regularly and being disrespectful about me having casual sex. I would have liked to have a relationship with him but he was too broke for me.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? LOVE IT!
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