What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 30
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? Australia
What country and/or city do you live in? Perth
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Project Manager
What’s your current relationship status? Single
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Fluid
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 52
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
He spat in my mouth
How long ago did this hookup happen? 5 days ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a month
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He is tall, somewhere between 6’3 and 6’4 – I know this because he told me. Dark scruffy hair, some ok tats, and a lot of really bad ones. Gorgeous blue eyes, cute but knowing smile. He is my local barista – so I had been putting in the ground work for a couple of weeks. Finally found an excuse to trade numbers. Before the hook-up, I thought he was pretty sweet, super cute. He definitely seemed like he had potential. Although I felt a bit awkward around. Possibly because he was quite sure of himself and sure of what I wanted…?
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Well he is my local barista so I would see him most days on my way to work, where we would chat, flirt talk about the news. He told me he had moved on the weekend which is close to where I live, so I invited him to social drinks at mine on Friday. He eagerly handed me his number.
A few texts through the day and that night we were meeting at the beach after our respective dinners for a night swim. He was rather presumptuous and didn’t have any qualms about approaching me in the water. Of course that is what I wanted, but there was zero build up. We kissed in the water, on the beach and then back to mine…
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We jumped in the shower and it was hot. He went down on me and holy wow. Hands, mouth, not really sure but it didn’t take long for me to come and come and shake. I usually get pretty bored with head and rush to return the favour, but in this case, I was NOT rushing him. We fucked for a bit in the shower – he wasn’t completely hard, probably to do with the whiskey we had on the beach, but it was still hot. His hips provided enough stimulation on my clit and I was happy for this shower sex. We tuckered out after a while and took a break on the bed.
He instigated a second round and it was ok. Rushed, a bit impersonal, seems like he watches too much porn. You can tell right? Right. At one point he spat in my mouth. LOL and GROSS. I should have said, “ah no thanks” but I just wiped it away and pretended it didn’t happen. Prior to the “spitting” incident, I took my turn and went down on him and was happy to be generous and take my time, he seemed to be enjoying it but again, the porn sounds… not entirely sure which ones were real and which ones were fake.
He pulled me up onto him, rolled me over and continued in doggy style. A very flattened out doggy style, but hot enough.
He rolled onto his back and pulled me on top of him on my back where I stuck my fingers in my own vag and gripped him inside of me. I put my fingers inside of his mouth and then kissed his mouth with my juices all over the both of us. That was hot.
Eventually he came on my stomach and that was it. I was pretty close to coming before he pulled out.
He was respectful enough – not disrespectful at all, and generous – just slightly impersonal, not enough build up. Quite presumptuous. I also tend to lose my voice and go along with it. But hey, I came, he came, we had fun.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I would have liked a little more excitement and someone fun to have something casual with. Explore each other sexually, but I won’t pursue him any more. If it happens again, it happens, but I am not particularly excited by it. But no harm no foul.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Withdrawal, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of my friends, we laughed, they encouraged me saying “there’s room for improvement”. I can’t be bothered though. 🙂
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The head in the shower. Oh so hot.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? The lack of build up.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was impressed that I was a little more open and less self conscious then I have been in the past.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I love casual sex. But I need to have a connection with them. If I am not connected or intellectually stimulated I won’t go there. Although – I wasn’t that stimulated with this guy, but I guess enough to enjoy it.
In the right group of people I am very open about my casual sexcapades, as I want to change people’s thoughts on casual sex, particularly among women. The more women talk about it, hopefully the more respectful it all can be. I would like to have more conversations with the guys I am sleeping with about sex. I would like to be more open about what I want.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s wonderful. I will continue to share with the view of exploring my own sexuality.
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