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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 18
What’s your race/ethnicity? Hispanic / Latino/a
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Pansexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Her

How long ago did this hookup happen? two weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status

How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I knew her from a year and a half ago, a summer camp we did together. I consider her a good friend. I thought I had feelings for her before the hookup

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? She came to visit and stayed in my room. It felt like something that was going to happen, and then it did. It was mutual.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Oral and fingering. She was very soft, very tender. I was worried that I would break her and it think she was worried about breaking me. It felt okay, a little out-of-body. We both laughed often, it was casual and we already knew each other well. She was receptive (I kept asking if things were okay, just to make sure) but also a little too gentle I think.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one

Did your partner have an orgasm? No

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We still talk, we’re good friends. We didn’t acknowledge it within our friend group and I don’t think we will.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), I was feeling lonely

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Some of my friends know, they saw it coming

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Very

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It was her

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I’ve been in a perpetual identity crisis (unrelated to this hookup) and I think I would have had more fun if I wasn’t

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? A part of me misses her and another part of me really doesn’t

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel undesired often because other people have more casual sex than I do.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great to create a dialogue about this

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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