What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 21
What’s your race/ethnicity? East Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York City
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Student
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? Into men and women, but mostly I fuck men
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 73
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 3
How long ago did this hookup happen? A month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I met Liam (fake name) on Tinder while I was visiting my Canadian hometown for a brief week. After familial holiday festivities, I started to become bored out of my mind. I matched with him on Christmas eve, planning to meet up at least once during my week in my hometown. He was 25, 6’3″, gorgeous, had an adorable smile, the most amazing dark hair, and was a medical student at the university nearby. He was born in the suburbs, and had his local Canadian charms. He told me he had just gotten out of a relationship a year or so ago with his high-school girlfriend, so he was going through a phase where he was trying to have casual fun. Our conversation online was definitely erotic, but in a way that didn’t make me feel gross. Rare occurrence. We had tentatively planned to meet 3 or 4 days after we had matched, but what happened 2 days after was amazing.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? First of all, I had reserved an AirBnb downtown so that I could get away from my parents in the suburbs for a bit. I had a hook-up lined up from OkCupid, but the sex was mediocre, and he had to leave by 9pm. Anxious to make full use of my expensive room, I was desperate to find other plans when I got a text from him. It was his first text to me after I had given him my number. He said, “Come out with me tonight. I’m wearing a turtle neck. My phone is going to die. Text my friend (insert number). It’s life or death.”
This literally happened right after I found out my first hookup had to leave. I thought “This is fate” and texted his friend, who gave me the location of the bar they were at. I schlepped down there in the rain, and got drinks with him and his friends. We all bonded, and I met the friend I was texting. Liam was indeed in a turtleneck, which was an adorable look. He had a certain childish charm I wasn’t used to because I usually fuck much older men. At one point, he pulled me aside, slightly tipsy, and said “My friend you were texting? He wants to have a threesome.” I found that hilarious and said that maybe it would happen. Around 1am, we decided that we had enough drinks and headed back to my AirBnb apartment. When we were a few block away, we came across a 7/11. I said I wanted to grab some snacks, and he asked, “Are you sure there isn’t something else you want?” Feigning innocence, I said “I don’t know what you’re talking about.” This went on for a minute, until we reached the store and I said “You’re getting the condoms. I got the snacks.” So we did.
I was unexpectedly smitten with him at this point. He was good-looking, funny, honest, and we really got along. I never really connect with people I go out with, but he was an exception. I was really looking forward to what was about to take place. We walked back to the apartment, lounged for a bit, drank some bourbon, and put on some music. We ate the snacks I had just bought on the couch, and started to feel each other up.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We started making out on the couch. I quickly realized he liked to take control and really knew what he was doing, which was surprising since he was a) young, and b) in a monogamous relationship for most of his adult life. We got naked on the couch, and he told me how sexy he found me to be. My god, was the feeling mutual. He was lean, not really muscular but he had great confidence. We moved it to the bedroom, and started making out even more. Our bodies fit so well together, and in my tipsy stupor I was 100% in the moment. I remember telling myself “Remember this feeling,” because I really don’t feel it often. This was pure passion. I’m not a particularly spiritual person, but I managed to get out of my head, and I was simply just there, in bed with this gorgeous guy I had amazing chemistry with. I don’t think I’ve felt this way about anyone I had slept with in years and years, perhaps ever.
I went down on him. He had a perfect circumcised dick, as if he needed something else to impress me with. The hottest part of this entire hookup was how in-sync we were, and how in-the-moment we both were. It was so erotic.
He fingered me and went down on me, telling me how great I tasted. By the time he got the condom ready, I could not wait another moment. When he entered my pussy, the pleasure I felt could not be put into words. He held, bit, choked, and spanked me throughout, which I loved. However, riding him was the best part, because his cock hit my G-spot perfectly, and I was able to see the pleasure on his face as he came into the condom while I was on top.
We went to sleep, satiated, cuddling and content. Even while spooning, our bodies fit together so well. When we woke up, we fucked again, and it felt just as good, this time sober albeit exhausted from a night of drinking.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? After our morning sex, I went to shower, while he helped me clean up in time for the 11am check-out. He was attentive, and so so nice. We left the apartment together, and grabbed a coffee and croissant at a nearby coffee shop. It was attached to an art gallery, so we sat down and talked a bit in the gallery over coffee. He had to leave, so we kissed goodbyes. He said he would hit me up if he were ever in New York City.
I wanted to see him again during my stay, but he made up some excuse and said he wasn’t able to. My theory is that he was fundamentally not a casual sex kinda guy, and seeing me again might bring about emotional attachment he really didn’t want. I deduced this because when I met some of his friends they told me that he was a sensitive, sweet guy. I was bummed out, but said OK and moved on. We still follow each other on Instagram and text each other occasionally.
I think that if I were permanently living in my hometown, I would want to pursue a relationship with him. I just had never felt that sort of chemistry before. Perhaps it’s for the best that I’m in New York City. I don’t know what type of obsessive behaviour I would have gotten up to if I were near him. I don’t have the time or energy for that right now.
Ever since my return to New York City, I’ve been looking for the chemistry that I had with Liam. Thus, I haven’t been too interested in many. It’s kind of disappointing, but I’m trying not to be stressed out about it.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, IUD (Intrauterine device)
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection
How intoxicated were you? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my close friends. I was smitten. I couldn’t help it. They were supportive of me feeling something for once and thought he was good-looking.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The unadulterated chemistry I felt towards him was unprecedented. Good dick. Good human. A+
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That we weren’t able to do it again. I’m not sure how he feels towards me, and now I feel a sense of insecurity that I’m not used to. I feel like I could fall in love with him, which is something I usually never feel. A small part of me wishes I didn’t feel this way.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? He made me realize that I was not dead inside and could in fact feel things. I have had a lot of hook-ups in the past, but this one makes me want to slow down and build real connections. It makes for much more pleasurable sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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