What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 17
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: Not graduated from high-school
What’s your occupation? Hostess
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none
Hot or Not Hookup
How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 weeks ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a week
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? So, I’m 17, I’ve never had a boyfriend and am now settling that casual sex is better than no sex at all. I got my first smartphone about 2 weeks ago and the first thing i did was download Instagram, Snapchat and Hot or Not. Joining Hot or Not allowed for me to show people what I wanted to see, my profile said I was 21, before I knew it my phone was blowing up from all these guys finding me attractive. Having a guy tell me I’m hot and that they want my body was a new experience that I never expected to have. So one day I get a message from a guy named Ryan. He’s 20 years old and was up near my area for spring break. We quickly started talking and exchanged snapchats, before I knew it we were planning to meet up. I told him my parents were really strict and had caught me sneaking out before so I had to be careful. I told him where I worked and he picked me up on Thursday, March 16, 2017. We drove around local neighborhoods for a while talking and looking for an empty parking lot. We eventually settled at a local high school where their back lot had no cameras or lights. I got out of the car and moved from the front seat to the back seat and so did he. Things heated up quickly when he grabbed my face and started making out with me. Before this experience, I had only ever kissed one boy, and Ryan made this experience very awkward. I soon removed my shirt and bra, and shortly after my pants. Ryan pulled down his pants but his underwear was still on, so I began to give him a handjob trough his underwear. Once his underwear was removed I gave him a blowjob until he was fully erect. I looked at him and asked if he wanted to do this and he said yes. so I flipped over onto my back and he put on a condom. He got on top and put it in me and we continued to have vaginal sex. For the first few pumps it felt really good, but then after a while, I stopped feeling it and grew somewhat bored. It instead went from a fun experience to when will this be over and how much homework do I have tonight. Once he had finished, ryan pulled himself out of me and we both put our clothes back on. We went back into the front seats and he drove me home. We didn’t talk afterword and he’s now back at college.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Not at all
Did you have an orgasm? No, not even close
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, To feel better about myself, To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, To cheer myself up, I was feeling lonely, Submission / Relinquishing power, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? I don’t know / I’m not sure
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I told my friends and they were worried for my safety. Here I was just a highschooler giving out information like where I work to a stranger who I was planning on having a sexual encounter with.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? A little bit
Why do you regret this hookup? I regret it because I didn’t enjoy it. Like the whole meeting a stranger and hooking up was fun, because it was just a release of power and the need to micro manage everything. However, the sex itself was boring and over far too quickly.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? my favorite part was releasing my need to constantly micromanage. Because this I could not micro-manage. It was either going to go great or go horribly.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He finished too fast and seemed very awkward so I barely felt it even though he has a big dick.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I still enjoy casual sex and look forward to doing it again, however I definately will be more careful as far as giving out my information
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think casual sex is an important part of growing up. It allows for both girls and guys to gain experience for their later partners along with helping to gain confidence in their skills.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think this is a helpful way for people to share their stories and break the stigma.
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