What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 46
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Canada
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Gay/lesbian
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Hotel Room Fun
How long ago did this hookup happen? 1 month ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Engaged/Married (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Met on Grindr that day. He was 25 and in university and was bisexual and newly single. We texted a bit then decided to meet at my hotel. Decided we would meet in the lobby and not set any expectations and both could back out. Exchanged face pictures prior to meeting. Was excited to meet for some fun.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He was shy and wanted to meet first outside the hotel. He arrived on foot. I shook his hand and we went to a quiet spot in the lobby and chatted for a few minutes. He was a really nice young guy. I asked if he was comfortable coming up to my hotel room and he agreed.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? Once inside the hotel room, he started to kiss me. He rubbed his groin into mine while we kissed. I could feel him getting hard. He took my shirt off and I did the same for him. Then we took our pants and underwear off and laid down on the bed.
We made out on the bed and explored each others bodies. His was perfect – slim, chest covered in brown hair and a nice 5″ uncut cock. He had an adorable smile, bright eyes and facial scruff. I couldn’t believe that I was making up with someone so attractive. We stroked each other while we kissed. I could feel the precum covering his cock. I changed positions and paid more attention to his cock, stroking it and feeling his foreskin. I licked his balls. We had decided prior to meeting that we would focus on kissing and jerking.
He loved the size of my cock and said it was very manly. We continued to make out, exploring with our tongues in each others mouth. He said he was close. He was stroking his cock, while I played with his balls and rubbed his asshole all the while kissing. He was so horny and wanted to cum. He came on his chest. I was stroking my cock and soon shot a large load all over him.
We went to the bathroom to clean up. We both got dressed and he left.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I enjoyed the hook-up. I was in town for business and wasn’t able to connect with him again while i was in town.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, I was feeling lonely, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it, It was easy / convenient
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Somewhat
Why do you regret this hookup? I find when I get on grindr, I can`t help myself and want to hook up. It’s very easy to find other horny guys who want to get off. I have had to delete the app on my phone to avoid the temptation. I’m fascinated with the app because I can see how close horny guys are. I don’t regret this hook-up per se, just am conflicted with hooking up with guys while in a partnered relationship. I try to draw lines and stay away from anal sex.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Next to my current partner, he was the best looking guy I’ve hooked up with. He was a very kind and gentle guy.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I always question myself about why I continue to meet guys and am conflicted while I`m in a long-standing relationship.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Fairly positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Somewhat negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I’m conflicted about having casual sex while in a committed relationship.
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