Race/ethnicity: White British
Current location: Sheffield, UK
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 10
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
Italian, Not So Much Stallion
How long ago did this hookup happen? September 2014
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? One Night Stand/ Booty Call
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? This guy was Italian and I met him whilst on holiday in Thailand. He was about the same height as me, maybe a little taller, Mediterranean features and smoothest of smooth accent. I had never met him before; I met him at the pool in the hotel resort at around 1am.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He and his friend approached me and my sister, we were sitting next to the pool drinking (we had drank a few bottles of thai rum). They started chatting to us, the place we were staying in was popular with backpackers and so we were used to talking to random people in the middle of the night. I fancied his friend more actually, his friend was tall and really fit with gorgeous blue eyes. Not long after we’d got talking we went for a short walk around the corner to the beach, he instigated a kiss and we snogged for a few minutes.
Suddenly, I hear someone else’s voice that I don’t recognise shouting his name. This guy panics and tries to hide, so I went back to the pool to see who it was, turns out two girls were standing there with the first guy and my sister. The girls were the girlfriends of the Italian guys and were asking me and my sister if the boys had been trying to get with us. We explained that my sister was engaged and then we lied and said nothing had happened with the other guy. The guy who I’d been kissing came back shortly after and said he’d been for a smoke or something (I was quite drunk by this point).
Both of the boys went back to their rooms with their girlfriends, me and my sister drank a little more and then went back to our rooms. However, when I got back to my room the Italian guy was standing nearby and told me he’d come back later so I said yes.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When the guy came back I was asleep and he woke me up knocking on the door. There wasn’t much messing about, our clothes came straight off and we rolled into bed together. He went down on me for a little bit, but I didn’t return the favour, I’ve given one BJ in my life and hated it so much I’ve never done it since.
He lived up to the Italian stereotype a little and was a fairly good lover, but definitely not as good as I expected. He was too rough although I told him to calm down, he pulled my hair which I thought was weird (especially because we were in the doggy position). I was a little bored during sex, I kind of just wanted it to be over, he clearly didn’t care about making me come.
As soon as it ended he left, went back to his girlfriend presumably.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? I didn’t orgasm, I didn’t even come close to be honest. I’m pretty sure he did, but I couldn’t swear to it.
I’d give it 3.5/10
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I’m on the contraceptive injection- although he didn’t know that and he didn’t ask. We didn’t use a condom but I got tested at home after.
He didn’t ask or discuss anything about STI’s or pregnancy, wasn’t his problem I guess.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I was drunk, when I’m drunk I get flirty and he was available. I don’t generally have a reason for a hookup, they just happen, and usually they’re not great- although there are exceptions to that rule.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? I’d had quite a lot of thai rum, but I can still remember almost everything, a couple of the finer details are hazy but I can remember most of it.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Nothing happened after, there was no follow up. It was a holiday fling of the briefest variety, I don’t even know his surname. I have no expectations for the future with this guy and I don’t feel anything at all about him now, he was just a means to an end, there were no feelings involved from start to finish.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I’ve talked to my sister about it, because she was there and so asked me in the morning. I also talked with my best friend about it, neither of them were surprised because this has happened a few times before, but they were impressed he was Italian and less impressed that he wasn’t very good.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes it was consensual for both of us, and it was wanted but only in the kind of way that you want a biscuit because you’re bored and realise afterwards that you didn’t need that biscuit, you didn’t even really want it that much and it was actually a bit stale.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I don’t regret it because I learned from it, it’s just something that happens to me a couple of times a year and it’s alright. I don’t have a boyfriend and so this seems to be the only way I can be sexually active in general.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? BEST: Casual, and not the worst sexual experience I’ve had.
WORST: He wasn’t great in bed and I didn’t orgasm.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? A little positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup or anything else? I haven’t had a boyfriend for a couple of years, so this is how I get a sexual release, and to be honest it’s a bit rubbish, guys in general are crap at sex, you usually need to give them directions. I’m considering investing in a sexual GPS so they can find their own way to my G-spot.
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