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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 19
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? America
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 1
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Just for fun

How long ago did this hookup happen? 4 weeks

What was your relationship status at the time? Single

How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My PARTNER was/is a guy 4 years older than me. We have been friends for almost a year, and not hooking up, but some fooling around for a lot of that time. We know each other through school. I could maybe like him but practically I’m far too busy to date and he’s a great friend.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began at his place, and it wasn’t the first time. When he invited me over I knew what was happening. This time there was a lot of planning because we had talked about it two weeks earlier but had to wait because we were both home on break from school.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? It was only the second time we went as far as sex. But it started off like it usually does anyways, lots of making out and cuddling and touching. As usual he was kind, making sure I was comfortable and feeling good, some giggling because sex is just awkward but fun. It ended when his roommate knocked on the door. Then he made dinner, we ate and hung out for a little, then I went home

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Somewhat

Did you have an orgasm? I don’t know

Did your partner have an orgasm? I don’t know

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I had bled a little (second time having sex plus I switched birth control so maybe spotting) he texted the next morning to make sure I was okay, asked about classes etc. I felt perfectly fine about it the next day. Nothing was different. I don’t really have any expectations for the future. This will likely continue till he graduates this semester and then he likely won’t be living nearby anymore. We are still good friends and have hung out since (not necessarily involving sex each time)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Nobody

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I feel great, I had fun. 10/10 would do again

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I was pretty tired afterwards

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes. I’m much more open to casual sex than I was a year ago

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Definitely helped that he’s never put any pressure on me about sex we were Strictly make out buddies for 8 months before sex happened

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people need to stop slut shaming. I don’t want to tell my friends because they’ll judge me but just because I don’t have the time to dedicate to dating seriously doesn’t mean I shouldn’t get to have some fun

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? This is weird…

You have a hookup story to share? Submit it here!

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