What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 42
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? United States
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Self Employed
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Not at all
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 60+?
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? a lot. (Search GingerMinx)
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How long ago did this hookup happen? 2014
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Friends-with-benefits
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Monica was, and still is, a beauty. Gorgeous body, slender, raven black hair, always dressed to kill, always fun. She was in contrast to my redhead, slightly pale, very curvy body. She worked for me for about 2 years. We had a great working relationship that had become friendly over time, which was important, especially since our jobs took us around the country. We’d often find ourselves in hotels all over the US for work, so we’d usually end up having dinner together and maybe a drink or two after a stressful day. No matter our level of drinking, we always kept it professional. Well, almost always. Occasionally we’d discuss sex and past partners and how we’d both been with women in the past, but that was about it.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? One month, we found ourselves both working in New Orleans. After a really long day, we found ourselves again at a bar having a cocktail. Or two. Monica may have had 4-ish. On our way back to our rooms (we were staying at the same plush hotel), I mentioned I wanted Monica to drop by my room really quickly because I had something I wanted to give her. Totally innocent. I really had an envelope to give her that she needed for work. She stayed for a while, and we continued to talk while she sat on the bed and I lounged on the leather couch. It wasn’t until she suddenly leapt up, rushed over to me, pulled me to a sitting position, and grabbed me, saying, “you talk too much”, kissing me deeply that it occurred to me Monica had more in store for me than simply talking.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I hadn’t been with a woman in years at this time in my life; not since Mandi, (See my post called “First Lesbian Experience” for details…) so needless to say I was shocked. But I loved it. Monica’s lips were so soft and she tasted divine. She pulled away and could tell I was surprised, but she didn’t let it stop her. I didn’t let it stop her either. 🙂
The sex was a blast. We were naked in seconds and proceeded to lick and nibble and kiss for what felt like hours. My favorite part of the night was the moment my tongue tasted her pussy. Not only was she soft and wet, but she had this almost earthy flavor to her that was intoxicating. I could have spent hours in between her legs. I also really loved just making out with Monica. It’s something men don’t always do well and our lips seemed to softly collide in a way that made my toes curl. We both gave each other an orgasm and eventually collapsed on the bed of exhaustion falling into a deep, naked sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, one
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next morning it was business as usual. We went to our meeting, and every once in a while we’d catch each other’s eye and try not to giggle. It was so fun to sit in a room full of 35 business men and not one of them knew we’d had hot lesbian sex the night before. Knowing the men in that room, they’d have paid a giant sum of money to watch us suck each other’s tongues and finger each other the way we had only hours earlier. It was very empowering to know that.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Thought it was an important experience to have, Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? I eventually told my longtime partner. He was totally cool with it.
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Neutral
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Being with a woman again. It had been almost 19 years since I’d been with a woman.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Not really. I already had an open mind about casual sex.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? If you are confident in who you are and have learned to do away with jealousy, casual sex can be very fulfilling. It’s adult play. It is absolutely possible to have fun without getting attached or without damaging a long term relationship.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Love it.
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