Location: Arcata, California
Highest education received: Some college (currently in college)
Religious affiliation: Atheist
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 1
Like a Good Neighbor, He Was There!
How long ago did this hookup happen? April 2014
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night Stand
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was on the shorter side, about 5’5 I would say. He was white, had shaggy hair, and crystal blue eyes. He was very flirtatious and intellectual. We’ll call him “T.” I knew “T” pretty well, he was my neighbor after all. I was always kind of checked him out from distance when I would walk in and out of my dorm and he happened to be outside. I also had a crush on one of his suitemates, and I secretly hoped to at least fuck one of them by the time the school year was over. Before I actually got to know “T,” I thought he was a bit obnoxious, but once I got to know him I realized he wasn’t THAT obnoxious LOL. My suitemates and I would always knock on their door before rushing into our house only for them to do the same. It was a game we had going on, and they would catch us in the act every now and again. This was when the flirty exchanges would occur between “T” and I. (At least from my perspective)
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The hookup began a week after my birthday when I threw a little shindig at my dorm. I was a little drunk, but I knew what I was doing. I had been texting “T” all day, slowly dragging on the conversation so I could slowly lead it into “Hey you want to come over?” I had a plan, and I instigated it! HA. He didn’t know my intentions until I actually asked the question.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The hookup was all vaginal and oral. I always laugh when I look back and think about this hookup because I was thinking about the Ukraine Crisis and contemporary art. I wasn’t sure if I was thinking about it or actually TELLING him about it while we were having sex lol. “T” was a great lover. He was very affectionate and knew how to eat a pussy. After the hookup we didn’t talk much, but we did cuddle and kiss a lot.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We used a condom in the beginning, but I guess it broke so we just had unprotected sex. We never talked about STIs or STDs, but the next day, after “T” left, he texted me asking me if I needed a Plan B pill. I told him I didn’t because I had already taken one before he asked me if I needed one. Since I had unprotected sex, I made it a point to immediately get checked at my local Planned Parenthood. After my checkup, I thankfully came back negative for everything. CLEAN! I was happy. As a reward, I had myself a few beers.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? I had a secret mental goal of fucking my neighbor. I guess it was a fantasy? Fucking my neighbor in college?? LOL I was also feeling horny and wanted some birthday sex, so I figured “T” was a perfect match!
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? He was high, I’m pretty positive of that because he’s ALWAYS high. I was a bit drunk, but I knew what I was doing. I really liked how he even texted me asking if I still wanted to follow through with it because I was drunk and he didn’t want to take advantage of me. I told him I was perfectly okay with everything, and gave my full consent for him to fuck my brains out.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was annoyed after the hookup. It was like 10 a.m. and “T” was still in my bed. I just wanted to get up, shower, and go to the Farmer’s Market but “T” still wanted to keep having sex. We had sex a few times, but I was done. I insinuated that I had things to do by saying, “It’s getting kind of late, I need to get my day started,” but it didn’t get through to him until I physically got up out of bed. I didn’t have any hopes for a relationship with “T” except for the fact that maybe we could become fuck-buddies. It never happened though. I would try to text him to come over but he always pulled some bullshit excuse so I gave up on him after a few times. I would ALWAYS run into him afterwards… In town, on campus, EVERYWHERE. We remained cordial and friendly but he would get sassy sometimes. Oh well, “T” wasn’t acting that way when he was pounding this pussy!
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My suitemates were the first ones I talked to about the hookup and they honestly just laughed at the fact that we fucked because they knew the entire time that it was bound to happen.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? It was consensual and wanted. Booooy, was it wanted. My partner I guess wanted it because he didn’t deny it. He asked me if I fully consented and wanted to follow through with this because I was a bit drunk and I told him I was, because I WAS. LOL
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? I do and I don’t regret this hookup. I regret it because things got kind of awkward afterward and I don’t like when people are awkward towards me. I DON’T regret it because I had fun that night, and got what I wanted.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing about this hookup, even though it isn’t something that’s necessarily good, was that I finally got to have unprotected sex. The worst part about this hookup was that “T” completely threw off my pH balance and made me smell down there for a few days. So unpleasant. This hookup didn’t change how I felt about casual sex. It encouraged me to get out there and have more casual sex, it even allowed me to accept my sexuality even more.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative
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