What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 39
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA Los Angeles
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Nurse
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 15
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? 2 weeks
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck-buddies / Booty call
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For 1 to 3 years
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? For 2 years, I had been innocently flirting with a doctor at one of the hospitals I work with. Mid 40’s, clean shaven with a little gray in his hair. Oh so handsome! His deep voice and Persian accent were so sexy, that I was drawn to him before I even saw his face. Initially, I really didn’t give much thought into anything happening outside of harmless flirting. This guy had crimson red flags everywhere: separated, kids…plus he had quite the reputation with the ladies.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? While working, I was on the phone at the nurse’s station and he dropped a post it with his phone number in front of me. I never called. Too wrapped up in my own thoughts of what was right instead of just letting go and having some fun. I would continue my game of flirting over the next few months and then something came over me. I wrote my number on a piece of paper and dropped it in front of him one day. We immediately began a week of dirty text exchanges until we finally both had a free night. There was no date. I went directly to his place. I knew what this was about and I was ready.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? He started rubbing my legs and telling me how soft my skin was. We were on the couch when he started kissing me and climbed onto his lap and straddled him. He pulled off my dress, unsnapped my bra and started kissing my breasts. We moved over to the bed and he took off my panties. He kissed me deeply as he put his fingers inside of me. His lips then moved down my body until his tongue reached my clit. I returned the favor by laying him down and putting all of him in my mouth, taking glances at the satisfied look on his face from time to time. I then climbed on top of him and put him inside of me. Every inch of him felt amazing and I had my first orgasm of the night. This went on for hours. In between sessions he talked about everything from his love of being a doctor, his career goals to his religion. (Did I mention he was Jewish and deeply religious?) I had never felt so confident and I think it’s because I really did not care what he thought of me. This was a hookup, nothing more and we were both clear about it. We fucked a few more times and I got an Uber home. I opted not to spend the night.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? The next day, I actually felt pretty fantastic! I didn’t regret anything and was quite proud of myself for being so bold. We really don’t have enough in common to sustain any kind of real relationship. I do have plans to fuck him again, though.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), To feel more desirable, To feel more confident, Power / Dominance
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol, Marijuana, hashish
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few friends. They thought is was great!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Gaining my confidence and feeling sexier than I have in a while.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He talked about himself a lot and he doesn’t have a great sense of humor.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, I am more open and I care less about what others might think.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I feel that as long as you are safe and doing it for the right reasons then casual sex can be empowering. I do sometimes worry about getting hurt or catching deep feelings. I’m still working on getting my heart to stop living in my vagina.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Wonderful!
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