Current location: Australia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Relationship status: Married
Religious affiliation: Spiritual
How religious are you? Somewhat
Sexual orientation: Mostly heterosexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexual orientation/sexuality better/best? I prefer men but will occasionally have lesbian sex if I find the girl attractive
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 14-16
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
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How long ago did this hookup happen? Ongoing
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Fuck-buddies
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? We met in my tertiary education institution. He was a teacher there, but not my teacher, I’ll refer to him as Victor. My course teacher introduced us and I was instantly attracted to him. I didn’t see him for a couple of weeks but I kept hoping to bump into him again, there was definitely something about him. One day he covered for an absent teacher and that day it was pretty obvious he was interested in me. He didn’t stop looking at me the whole time and he asked me to his desk to “help him find the correct course name”, some time later he told me he was actually looking at my file, which I found exciting. He waited until I left the classroom to encounter me and asked me if I was liking the course, I told him I needed help in some areas and he offered to help me with these, said I could find him there on wednesdays, but I didn’t come wednesdays so I ignored him.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Next time I saw him was about 2 weeks after that when school holidays had already started but I had to attend an extra class that day, the institute was empty and we bumped into each other. He said he hadn’t seen me lately and the best way to organise something was to exchange phone numbers. I agreed and it was at this point that I started getting a bit nervous because something could actually happen and it would be the first time I would be cheating on my husband. He texted me about a week later apologising for being so late but he had been overseas and had just come back. We agreed to meet for coffee the day after. We had a cup and then he suggested we went to his place to do some further reading related to my studies. I have to confess that even though I knew where things were going I was still not sure that he was bold enough to make a move so I can say I went there somewhat naively, but oh boy, did he surprise me when he kissed me as soon as the front door was closed. I waited for a sign of guilt or some uncomfortable feeling but instead I got more and more aroused by his kissing and the passion he imprinted in his touch. Things escalated pretty quickly from there and next thing I knew we were on his bed, he sucking on my nipples and fingering me at the same time. Victor was a charming and confident man, that’s what I liked most about him, that he looked like he knew what he was doing, he knew what he wanted and he was not afraid to go and get it.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The first time we engaged in oral, vaginal and anal. It was after the second time we had sex that I showed him a picture of my bruised lips (from when he bit me while kissing me) that I suggested we went rough and he was very enthusiastic about it. Next time we met we did the whole “forced sex” thing and it was just amazing. I started the game by threatening to leave and he pushed me to the floor and forced his cock into my mouth while he fingered me. He then lowered my jeans just enough to penetrate me and I continued the role play by resisting and hitting/biting/face-scartching, in one occasion I actually hurt his face and he got genuinely angry and pulled me by the hair and pushed my face into the pillow so hard that I couldn’t move my head and immobilized my arms with his hands in such a painful way that turned me on so bad, then he started thrusting me very energetically, I could see the madness in his eyes as he was trying not to cum and it turned me on even worse. His sweat dripping on me, his bites in every part of my body, the fact that he didn’t care about leaving his mark behind, it was the combination of all the right things. Victor had a strong hand and he knew how to use it, he was the best at spanking and he seemed to get turned on every time I asked for more or for him to do it harder. That day I ended up with bruises in my lips, arms, legs and shoulders, the ones in the shoulders were pretty obvious as this were finger marks and so I had to be extra careful at home so my husband wouldn’t see them.
Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? Yes. We both did.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? I am on birth control and we used a condom for anal. We discussed STD history after having sex for the first time and I felt safe in not using condoms as he said that apart from his partner he had sex with me only. We agreed on using protection if we happened to have sex with people other than our partners so we could continue to have a good time together without worrying about that stuff.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? My sex life at home was barely alive, my husband was always too tired, too sleepy etc. I’ve always had a strong sex drive and this was becoming a big problem for me because I started blaming myself for his lack of interest, also my self-image and self-esteem were falling to the floor because of this.
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? None.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Now I see Victor not quite as often as I used to in the beginning but when we meet we still have a great time, we have fantastic sexual chemistry and also have a good laugh together, I’ve actually grown fond of him and think when the sex factor fades there’s potential to be kept as a good friendship.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? To my 3 closest friends. They said they knew it was a question of time before it happened as I looked unsatisfied with my sex life.
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes, for both of us.
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? Not one bit.
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I was surprised at my ability to leave everything behind before I got home, I kissed my husband and held my kids as if nothing had happened. I was expecting to feel different about life/love/marriage but no, nothing, not a sign of remorse. I was still me. I guess I am a natural. I actually left that day feeling great about myself, my marriage is not as strained as it used to be because I don’t feel I’m pushing my husband to have sex when he doesn’t feel like it and also my self-esteem has increased and that has shown in how I carry myself because now I get hit on every time I leave the house and I have to say it’s a great feeling. I like the sense of intimacy that it brings to have stable sex partner though, I feel more comfortable with someone who knows me and knows what I like and viceversa, it also makes me feel safer in relation to STD’s because I enjoy unprotected sex, but still I think it’s been quite a satisfying kickstarter as I now know I am able to enjoy my sexuality in another context, I knew in theory that I wanted to live an experience like this but now that I’ve done it I’m starting to know what other venues I’d like to explore, a threesome is next on the list!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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