What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 43
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Bay Area California
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Trades
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (monogamous)
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 34
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
MFM with a trusted friend
How long ago did this hookup happen? 10 months or so
What was your relationship status at the time? In a relationship (monogamous)
How would you best classify this hookup? Group sex
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I am super in love with my girlfriend, she is around my age, physically fit, tattooed, and beautiful. The guy is a good friend, who is good looking. The two of them have always just been buddies even when they were both single. He and I have become good friends and before the hookup he confided in her that he was attracted to me.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? MMF threesomes had been a big part of our pillow talk for a while. I suggested it with him and she was like “no way, needs to be a stranger”. We went out to dinner together and on the way to the bar she said “maybe, but not tonight”. After a few drinks she told me she wanted to go smoke with him and see if she thought she could do it. I came out after 5-10 minutes and they were making out. I walked up and she kissed me, then him, back and forth a few times.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? When we got back to our place I stepped out to walk the dog because I really wanted to “catch” them. When I got back she was giving him a blow job. I’ve always wanted to give one so I started sucking him off too. Then we switched to him fucking her in reverse cowgirl while I licked her clit and his dick at the same time. We did a bunch of this stuff back and forth before double vaginal penetration which we all REALLY LOVED, especially her! Later I held her in my arms while he fucked her and when he pulled out to cum, she told him to cum in my mouth, which he did. I fucked her and came in her pussy and he was already to go again and fucked her with my cum in her pussy. She then switched to blowing him and I came on her face while his cock was in her mouth, which made him come in her mouth. She kissed me and we all went to sleep.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We were all totally relaxed about it as far as our social feelings were concerned. We already knew each other pretty well and it hasn’t changed our friendship at all. We’ve done it a few more times since.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, Discussed STI testing history
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Learning new things, experimenting, Emotional intimacy, closeness, connection, Thought it was an important experience to have
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Somewhat
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few of our friends know and we’re all like “that’s awesome”
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? It fulfilled long time fantasies for all involved.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? He is seeing somebody and we don’t do it anymore.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? I never think of myself as bisexual, but I really enjoyed my contact with him. It has also allowed me to consider an open relationship(which she kinda wants)
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I live in a pretty progressive area, where nobody I know is outspoken against it. I’m pretty comfortable with my girlfriend’s sexual experience and I consider it just how people are.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s interesting and would love to see analyzed data.
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