Current location: New Zealand
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
Occupation: Company Director
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 31
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 7
How long ago did this hookup happen? 25 years ago
How would you best classify this hookup (e.g., one-night stand, fuck-buddies, friends-with-benefits, booty call, sex with an ex, short fling; paid sex…)? Friends with benefits
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? My partner was a handsome, rich law student (described more in my other story, My First Time) who I was in a group of friends with, and had a secret occasional FWB thing with. The other friends didn’t know (except for my best friend) (and I don’t know if he told any of his other friends). I was reasonably happy with the situation as it was, having access to rather fabulous sex, but not being tied down in a relationship.
On this occasion we were all staying at a holiday house beside a beach. I didn’t expect to have sex with him, because it didn’t usually happen when we were with all our other friends (other than sometimes feeling each other up in the dark at night while everyone was sleeping all around us).
This guy was amazing at massages and gave them to everyone, so I had had a nice neck and shoulder massage at some stage and thought that would be it for this weekend.
Everyone was drinking and some people were playing card games, some people cooking, I can’t remember what else was going on. My FWB announced he would like to go for a midnight swim and asked if anyone else was keen. I said I was (and I said I was purely because I actually wanted to go for the swim I thought it would be fun, and I also thought there’d be a group of people going and it didn’t cross my mind it would be an opportunity for sex). Anyway no-one else wanted to, just me and him, so we got into our swimsuits and left for the beach. No-one seemed to think anything of the fact it was just the two of us.
We ran down to the beach and straight into the ocean. This was actually pretty stupid because it was a surf beach which can be dangerous and it was dark and we’d been drinking. It was also really really cold. We splashed around in there for a short while, but the waves were quite full on and we were getting really cold, so we gave up pretty quickly and ran back up to the house.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was a shower attached to the outside of the house to rinse off after the beach and it was a hot shower. He turned it on and pulled me under it with him cause we were both shivering. The hot shower felt great after being in the ocean, but it was a shower for one, and we were both in it, so almost immediately we started kissing and touching each other. This alone felt pretty fantastic, with the hot water pouring over us and then he took my swimsuit off and I took his shorts off so we were naked. He had a gorgeous erection which I could feel against my belly while we were kissing.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? The set up of this shower was that it was completely exposed. It just stuck out from the wall of the house with nothing around it. Right beside us was a window with the curtains closed, and inside the house, right by this window was a table where a bunch of our friends were playing cards. I could hear them talking and laughing through the window. There were also other holiday houses around us, and although it was unlikely anyone would come out of those houses this late at night, if anyone had done, they would have seen us or even if they looked out their windows.
He was very fit and strong and I was quite skinny (then!) and he lifted me right up and eased me down onto his cock. I put my legs around him and we had a glorious fuck in the hot outdoor shower, very much heightened by the risk that we could easily be seen if anyone thought to look. They didn’t though, and after we’d both come, then rinsed off, we went back inside and joined our friends and no-one knew.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? none, although he knew I was on the contraceptive pill and he also knew he was the only sexual partner I’d ever had. I knew he’d had one other partner and used condoms, so we weren’t worried.
What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Sexual attraction, excitement, fun, opportunity
Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? A reasonable amount of alcohol.
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I felt really happy. I wasn’t expecting to have sex that weekend so it felt like a bonus. I expected that things would continue in the same vein with that person.
How I feel about him now is he is someone I remember with great fondness as we had some great times together. He is still a friend, in the sense I have stayed in touch with him and know what he is up to.
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? no-one
Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes and Yes
Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The best thing was the excitement of having secret outdoor sex, and the risk of discovery.
It didn’t change my views on casual sex, I continued to believe that casual sex can be a wonderful experience.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
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