by ladyface

Gender: F
Age: 37
Race/ethnicity: Caucasian
Location: Australia
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
Occupation: Arts
Relationship status: Single
Religious affiliation: None
How religious are you? Not at all
Sexual orientation: Bisexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? more than 80
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? none

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How long ago did this hookup happen? Ongoing

How would you best classify this hookup? Fuck buddies

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Very good looking. 36. Professional in the arts. Met online and flirted for a while and met before hooking up.

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? He instigated it. Contacted me through dating site. We flirted for AGES about 3 months actually during which time became fb friends. He came and visited me where I lived and after that he offered to come around and cook me dinner or go out to dinner, I wanted to be cooked for and it was clear we would have sex.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? Did you have an orgasm? Did your partner(s)? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We drank, he cooked me dinner and we played around for a while, play fought actually and wrestled and then had hot hot hot sex ALL night. Maybe 6 times of prolonged sex. Very passionate and the chemistry flowed PERFECTLY. I had 6 orgasms he had three. Brilliant lover, we kissed a lot too and caressed, cuddled all night, it was well beyond the garden variety sex. We chatted but it wasn’t profound conversation (he’s not really the chatty kind and I directed it a bit). We had breakfast together at my house, very casual and comfortable, then we both had things to go to. Was a brilliant experience at the time. The first time was straight up sex, nothing kinky, subsequent encounters have been less than vanilla that’s for sure.

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? Did you discuss STI history? We made a big mistake though and didn’t use protection and I had to take morning after pill. Neither of us had had a sexual partner for a few months and we had both had recent std checks. And no discussion around it prior, we had both been drinking and got carried away.

What were your REASONS for having this hookup? Mutual attraction and clear chemistry.

Were alcohol or drugs involved? If so, how much? Alcohol, we shared 1 bottle of wine.

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it? What are your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Mixed feelings after because the sex and the chemistry was so exceptional. We have since been together three times now, each has been an all nighter, each time better than the last and each time kinkier than the last, pretty outrageous and involving rough sex and sex toys and double penetration. I brought up a discussion about it because it had become an ongoing thing. I started to get “involved ‘ and need to know boundaries. It became evident after the discussion that it wasn’t going to lead anywhere but that he wanted to keep it going because of our undeniable chemistry. For both of us, we have only had two other sexual partners each who we have had this kind of chemistry with (in our post sex discussions in bed). I am now going to end the casual hookup with him. I can’t have this kind of chemistry with someone and it be just an occasional hookup. He is finding this too but is reluctant to discuss it, so I am going to have to call it.

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? A few close friends. They were happy for me and cautionary.

Was this a consensual and/or wanted experience for you? For your partner? Yes.

Do you regret this hookup? If so, why? No and yes. I have enjoyed it thoroughly when it has been happening and the chats we have had outside the bedroom, but now it’s doing my head in and I can’t keep my heart out of it for much longer, the only way i can keep myself ok will be to end it.

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? How about the WORST? Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? The absolutely mind blowing, wonderful sex was best and the affection within that as well (loads of sweet affection). The worst is the hot and cold afterwards and the open and closedness of their behaviour. I’m just wanting to be open and deep and real, not necessarily lead to anything or not, I’m just open to whatever is. I can’t stand the hot cold thing. We are all grown ups and there’s no need for it.

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Somewhat positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

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