What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 54
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? Ann Arbor, MI
Highest education received: Some college (not currently in college)
What’s your occupation? Retired
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Bisexual
Any other term(s) that describe your sexuality or sexual identity? New and finding out?
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 3
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? None
More Than Just A Massage!
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month!
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? Paid sex
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? It was a massage set up by my ex-wife! Turned out to be a “Duo 4 handed male massage” for my Birthday! Both Masseurs turned out to be very “HOT” looking! Found myself turned on, by another man… Was very surprised!
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? Was at his Tevan’s Massage Studio, where this all took place! My ex-wife setting me up for a massage is what led to it! I believe she knew something was going to happen, she had a bag with watermelon flavored oil & anal lube that she wanted me to give Tevan the masseuse!
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? What started out as what I thought was a simple massage… Turned into a 3-way, with me and the other 2 masseuses! My first time giving another man oral sex, while also being the first for me… Having anal sex! I have to admit the feeling was incredible! When it was over, they thanked me, welcomed me back anytime… I set up another appointment for this month!
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? Can’t stop thinking about it! Can’t wait for my next massage!
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Just happened, I don’t know why, just went along with it
How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? A little bit
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one!
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? I didn’t tell anyone
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Finally finding out how awesome it is to be with another man!
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? That I kind of got tricked into it!
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, it’s made me more aware of the chances of getting STD”s!
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Sometimes, Just trusting your instincts, can reap some very rewarding benefits!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It’s not for everyone, but sometimes it does have its benefits!
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Great, gives people like me a chance to talk about their sexual experiences, without feeling judged!
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