What’s your gender? Man
How old are you? 35
What’s your race/ethnicity? White / Caucasian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? USA
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Agnostic
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 9
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
How long ago did this hookup happen? Last month
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? Technically a one night stand, but looking to get a fuck buddy out of it
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? Female, 5’7″, 43, brown shoulder length hair, slender, nice boobs. Just met them that night through some friends. I was with a couple I knew and they brought her along. I wasn’t really thinking anything was going to happen, but I’m horny 24/7 so in the back of my mind I was hoping.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The small group I was with was out at a club, so we all had some drinks, she had a few, I couldn’t really drive, but I wasn’t sloshed. It was a good atmosphere, we were all carrying on and dancing and having a good time. For a little bit I danced with her, nothing hot and heavy, but we were pretty close. I also was dancing with some other women too around the club, which never seems to hurt your chances. As we were leaving and deciding how we were all getting home, (since I couldn’t really drive at the moment) and everyone else lived in different directions, she said she could drive my car to her house and I could spend the night if it isn’t awkward. I agreed, and heartily backed her idea, thinking if anything were going to happen, thats how it would go down. We drove back to her house, she showed me around briefly, and said I could sleep on the couch or in her spare room, but also showed me a second bathroom and said I could take a shower if I wanted. This REALLY set things moving for me, and I said, shower? Sure that sounds good, and started getting undressed. She left the bathroom and went to her room. I stripped naked in record time, grabbed a towel to girdmyself in, and walked to her room. I was kinda walking around talking to her, and complimented her on her personal shower, then asked her if she wanted to take one with me. She smiled, and said thank you, but she shouldn’t. We had a brief discussion about how she didn’t want to mess things up as friends in our little group, and I said it could just be between her and I, and I wouldn’t tell anyone. After a little more discussion, she agreed, and asked if I had any protection. I said yes, and ran like a freaking bat out of hell to my car after quickly putting pants on to grab a couple condoms. We started shortly after I came back in.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I didn’t have far to go to get naked, and she took her clothes off pretty fast. We made out without clothes on for a few minutes and I asked if she was ready. I put on the first condom and we went at it missionary style for a good half hour before hitting a few other positions. She was extremely tight, so I had to slow down a few times to stop myself from cumming. She rode me for a little while, and we hit doggy style for a while after that, before returning to missionary, and putting her legs on my shoulders. I am fairly long, so I was bottoming her out pretty good and she was squirming and moaning quite a bit. I came the first time shortly after this. When I finished, we sat around and talked for a bit, I washed myself, then came back in, and asked if she’d like to go again. She said yes, and I grabbed another condom and we went right into missionary again, then hit a few of the same positions again for another hour or so, before I came inside her. By this time it was around 5 in the morning, and she said I totally wore her out. I took a shower then came back and we spooned and slept for a few hours. Her alarm went off and she had to get up in the morning and said she was cold. When she came back in, I asked if she would like me to warm her up, to which she smiled and said yes, and I grabbed the last condom and we started in missionary again, before hitting doggy, then back to missionary with her legs up. I tried to hold out, but it snuck up on me, and I came in her after about a half hour. I stayed inside her while we kissed and she said she was having aftershocks, and I could feel her body rhythmically contracting for a little while. I pulled out and we talked some more when I started getting hard again. I knew I was out of condoms so I started stroking myself and asked if she would like me to cum on her. She enthusiastically said yes, and I straddled her chest and started jerking off. She sucked on my dick for a minute, then right before I was about to cum, I gave her the heads up, and I ejaculated all over her chest. I got her a towel, and we laid and kissed and talked for a bit, before I had to leave. The whole experience felt amazing, she was a very enthusiastic partner which was super hot. We didn’t talk a ton, but usually just about what we were doing, how it feels or some silly observation. I kept expressing disbelief at how tight she was.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? We kissed a few more times as I was leaving and we said our goodbyes. I felt amazing the next day, and hoped we could do this again some time. I haven’t seen her again yet, but I definitely want to get together again. I would like to become a fairly regular booty call for her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Making new friends
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? No one, I made a promise.
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The sex was amazing. In a 10 hour time span I came 4 times and I’m not sure how many times she did. She was extremely enthusiastic and likes having sex for sex. No bullshit added, no games, no hidden agenda, no hangups. This is the absolute best kind of hook up.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? I can’t think of one thing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? It reinforced that my best experiences with sex have been outside of relationships, and my worst have been within relationships. It isn’t for everyone, but there are people that this works for. You have to be mentally mature, stable, and have your issues under control. If everyone has that, and they don’t suck in bed and you give your partner an orgasm, I’m fairly sure most everyone would enjoy this sort of thing.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Hoping to see her again!
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? This is the first time I had sex with someone so soon after meeting them, though I have had sex with people shortly after meeting them in person, but talked over the internet for a period of time. It is something I had to work up to, to fully appreciate, and it definitely takes a certain mindset and maturity to do and do well. I think more people would be happier if they had a few regular sex partners and approached the whole thing rationally, hygienically, and intelligently.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Interesting idea, I would like to see where this goes. There is so much controversy about this type of thing in society, and everyone has an opinion, and usually a pretty strong one.
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