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by East Coast
What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
What country and/or city do you live in? New York, NY
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your occupation? Film Writer
What’s your current relationship status? Single
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 25+
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Amtrak Ride
How long ago did this hookup happen? August 2016
What was your relationship status at the time? Same as current status
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? Just met that day
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? I was taking a 26 hour Amtrak train ride from Seattle to San Francisco. When i boarded the train, the man that sat next to me was very attractive, possibly in his mid-late thirties. Very fit and healthy looking, probably about 5’9 and had a great smile and thick, black hair. He was Canadian and was traveling around the States by himself for a couple weeks. We had the next 26 hours together, so we talked and bonded about traveling solo and other things we had in common. I assumed he had a girlfriend back home because he mentioned something about a woman he lived with in one of his stories, so I immediately got rid of any assumption that we would hook up. He was very cute and super friendly though, so I wasn’t upset. We had all our meals together and the ride was incredibly scenic.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? The train ride started around 11am, so we spent the entire day chatting and eating together, so by the time the evening came, we were pretty comfortable with each other. We had dinner in the dining car and after, we went to the viewing car where we watched the sunset from behind the mountains and forests. It was so beautiful, very hard to miss the romance in this perfect setting. We were drinking wine and cuddled and talked until around 1am when we decided to go back to our seats to get some sleep.
The whole car was dark and everyone around us was fast asleep and while we spooned on our seats, he started to touch me. I was surprised at how happy I was that he was touching me, i guess the wine loosened me up a bit.
He started off rubbing my hips, then slowly let his hand wander to my belly and up to my breasts over my bra. Then his hand slid down to the rim of my pants and he started to tease the sensitive skin where my thighs begin. Of course, I had to pee, so I turned to him and excused myself. The bathrooms were down some stairs, so i slid down quickly, hoping that I didn’t just kill the moment.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? After I peed and freshened up a bit, I walked out of the tiny bathroom and he was standing right there. I shyly said hi and moved out of the way so he could go in. Instead of going back upstairs, I went into this little powder room like 3 feet away. He saw me go in. There was room for about 2 people in the tiny powder room and it had a small bench and a big mirror. i went in there to change from my jeans into more comfortable sweatpants.
He walked in the powder room and pushed me up against the wall and started kissing me. It was one of the most intense things I’ve ever experienced. I was wearing a big hoodie and he swiftly lifted it over my head and threw it to the side. He lifted me up and I wrapped my legs tightly around his waist while he made out. He then sat down on the small bench and i straddled him while making out and grinding on him. He lifted my bra and started to lick and suck my breasts. There was no lock on the door, so the danger of being caught felt amazing.
I assumed we would have sex, but he stood up, pulled my pants down, sat back down, grabbed one of my legs by the back of my knee and held it up and proceeded to eat me out. I looked to my left and watched everything happen from the big mirror and was so turned on, I felt myself become soaking wet. Staring in the mirror at his head between my legs as I was up against the wall was the sexiest thing in the world. My legs started to give away from the intense pleasure, and he knew that, so he held me by my hips and gently lowered me down on the bench while he got on his knees on the floor and continued to go down on me and finger me for about 15 minutes until I came on his face.
Once I was finished, he stood up, smiled at me, and said “well, thank you for that.” I responded with a “no, thank you.” He went back upstairs- thankfully since i needed a couple minuted to recuperate. Once I got back to our seats, we spooned until his stop came which at that point was about 45 minutes away. When the train stopped, he handed me his card and gave me a quick peck. When I looked down at the card, I realized we had never exchanged names, so he has no idea who I am.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? No
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I looked at the card he gave me, and although I was happy I learned his name eventually, I was okay with that just being a one time thing. He’s from Canada, I’m from New York and I think we both just needed exactly what we got at the time. I feel very peaceful with it, and I’m so happy I got that experience with such a nice guy.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) None, No penetrative sex happened
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting
How intoxicated were you? A little tipsy/high
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? A little tipsy/high
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Somewhat
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I gave enthusiastic consent
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? Sisters and friends, all were “jealous” but very happy for me
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Not at all
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? The whole setting was a perfect set up for this hookup. Both traveling, a day long scenic train ride along the west coast and through mountains and woods.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Nothing.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little bit, but not too much. i’ve been very free spirited about sex for a few years, but new experiences like this definitely keep me grounded and open to new things.
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? I think people need to see sex as something special for everyone and remove their egos from it. As long as you are safe, clean, and emotionally strong, there should be no stigma against casual sex.
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? I think it’s great! I love a platform where people can communicate freely about their experiences, both good and bad.
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