What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 23
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? North America
Highest education received: College degree (eg., BA, BS)
What’s your current relationship status? In a serious relationship (open)
Religious affiliation: Christian
How religious are you? Somewhat
What’s your sexual orientation? Heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 5
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0
My Friend’s Boyfriend
How long ago did this hookup happen? A few months ago
What was your relationship status at the time? Single
How would you best classify this hookup? One-night stand
How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than a year
Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He was hands down HOT. Very athletic and fit. He was a friend with a friend and I had some classes with him. He’s hilarious at class but sometimes I get intimidated by him. We eventually became friends, and I liked him. Which was the worst thing that can ever happen to me at that time. Soon I learned, that he was the boyfriend of my middle school bestfriend who was perfect in everything. Let’s call her Bitchidita. And yes, I hated her when I realized that John was serious about her.
How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? There was no planning AT ALL. It was really unexpected since it was just a small get-together reunion of our old high school. John and I got pretty close, by pretty I mean REALLY close. Bitchidita invited John and the three of us came together. After a few hours Bitchidita had to get home since she got really wasted. John drove her home, but since I didnt want to go home yet, DUH the party just started. They left me but soon came back cause I came with them and I didnt have a ride home.
What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? I thought that John got really drunk after staying and drinking a lot when he came back. Then I decided to take him home. This was when something unexpected happened. We were in the car and he started sucking my neck and was kissing the hell out of me. He was so agressive that it made me so horny. Of course I kissed him back, this was like a chance of a lifetime. I stopped him for a moment and I drove his car back to his place. Then went to get a condom, he didnt even say anything and immediately went to fuck me. He went into a diagonal position of missionary and many more positions I didnt know but goodness… it was driving me mad. It was the best sex I have ever had in my entire life. It was embarrassing since I was moaning really loud cause he was really rough. I made it more steamy by calling his name and sucking his dick after, since he didnt even give me a chance before fucking me. Although after a few rounds and he passed out.
How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very
Did you have an orgasm? Yes, one
Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple
What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I was really sore. He texted telling me to forget about what happened… then Bitchidita broke up with him for not having sex with her. HAH! I guess the sex we had was just too good to forget/replace or maybe Bitchidita sucks at bed. John never even made an effort for a reconcilation which broke Bitchiditas heart. After that John and I had a few hookups a lot of conversations. I learned a lot about him and I like him so much now. Which broke Bitchiditas heart even more. I guess I was wrong that John loved her.
What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms, Birth control pill / patch / ring / injection / implant
What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Hoping or expecting it would lead to something more, Thought it was an important experience to have, I was feeling lonely
How intoxicated were you? Small amount of alcohol or drugs, not enough to feel it
What substances did you consume? Alcohol
How intoxicated was your partner? Drunk/high but not wasted
What substances did your partner(s) consume? Alcohol
How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very
Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’
How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very
Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but didn’t give a ‘no’
To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? John’s sister 😀 Who is one of my close friends
How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Relatively positive
Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit
Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? Somewhat
Do you regret this hookup? Not at all
What was the BEST thing about this hookup? I got more intimately close to John and him breaking up with Bitchidita. And the legendary sex we had that night.
What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Realizing that John wasnt as perfect as I thought he was ( irresponsible ) but I still like him very much.
Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? A little bit
All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive
All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? Not at all negative
Anything else you want to add about this hookup? I’m now in a relationship with John, so I thank whoever made Bitchidita so drunk.
And its not just about the pleasure and sex now, I know in my heart that John is serious this time and its about something more than just sex.
What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? It changed my life bigtime. I know this rarely happends and is almost impossible but I think John liked me even before that incident
What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Okay
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