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What’s your gender? Woman
How old are you? 24
What’s your race/ethnicity? Southeast Asian
What continent do you live on? Asia
What country and/or city do you live in? Hanoi
Highest education received: Post-graduate degree (eg., MA, MS, PhD, JD, MD)
What’s your occupation? Auditor
What’s your current relationship status? Dating casually
Religious affiliation:
How religious are you? A little
What’s your sexual orientation? Mostly heterosexual
How many sexual partners have you had in your life (including oral sex)? 7
How many hookup stories have you here posted before? 0

Mysterious Guy

How long ago did this hookup happen? 3 months

What was your relationship status at the time? Dating casually

How would you best classify this hookup? Many night stands

How long did you know the person before this hookup? For less than 6 months

Tell us about your PARTNER(S). What did they look like? How well did you know them, had you hooked up before? How/Where did you meet them? How did you feel about them before the hookup? He has curly hairs, good-looking with a big flirty smile. Well we matched on Tinder like 3 months before that first-time hook-up. Well I had mixed feelings before that. Very soon when I just knew him, I wasn’t so attracted to him much but kept talking, mostly about how he doesn’t want to be monogamous anymore as he just broke up with his 1 year long girlfriend and how I want to come back there to date someone decent as I got so fed-up with hook-ups, one night stands…I even managed to come over to his place once before but nothing happened as I was obviously not attracted. Then few weeks later we bumped into each other at a party and well there was chemistry mostly came from my dancing routine on the stage and he thought that was so damn hot. And he started to put lot of effort in to seducing me which was really moved and turned me on. Started to feel like he could be a cool guy and also kinda sexy in the way he went deeply to investigate me mostly about sexually side like what is my fantasy, my preference and found out we might get along quite well in the bedroom. I was very much turned on but still manage to hold on on my idea of a decent partner to be a great boyfriend and quit hooking-up (well at least for awhile)

How/where did the hookup BEGIN? What led to it? Was planning involved? Who instigated it? We both went to a 2 days camping-music festivals, well, not together as he was with his friends and so was I. As this is a damn small town and your hook-up story might spread out in a sec so we agreed to do nothing there in front of our friends but said hi and secretly exchange our staring from across the dance floor (which I felt like crazily sexy haha) At that point I knew it was very likely I might be into him and still aware clearly that he is just interested in having sex with me which doesn’t bother me much as he still showed his massively effort in seducing me and made me feel quite flattery. Well this seems quite a long shot so later that night I found myself making out with him next to a tree and then in a wood nearby while there was few people still walking by which turned me on more as that adventurous way. Things didn’t go to far ( just kiss and included few fingering) as I myself was very much seduced but still managed to keep him at bay. Well, finally 2 weeks after that I could hold on anymore and we made a plan to meet up for a beer and then his house. Oh he is that one instigated it, again again and again but with me kind of cheering him haha.

What happened DURING the hookup? What sexual behaviors took place (e.g., oral, vaginal, anal, kinky stuff)? How did you feel during it? How did they behave toward you? Were they a good lover? What did you talk about? How did it end? We did talk (dirty) a lot after that and I mentioned I was quite enjoy being rough with and be open to toys, public place or even kinky stuffs which require long time investigate by him caused I normally keep this secret as I thought not anyone could understand that. About that first time we were both much sober and ready, agreed we would keep this a secret and tell no one about it. As what I fantasized he threw me into his bed and aggressively kiss my neck while taking my clothes off, and then gave me order to have my hand tied up in the air which were so damn hot. Not so long after, I found him were eating my vagina a dedicated way which gave me a great orgasm. We did all the thing we had talked about that day: deep- throat, doggy style and really made it as dirty as possible. I made him come like 3 times and it was 2 times for me. It was well I could say the greatest time I ever had but I was somehow still a little disappointed which a little while I thought it might be because we did set the expectation incredibly high toward each other. But then it was still quite good,he was giving and skillful and paid a decent amount of attention to me ( not me maybe but my sexually side) . I was very much satisfied. Well I don’t think he will make a good bf but could be an amazing sex partner. Not sure what we talked about that but might be about his ex and still the same old things we always talked about. But I remembered I didn’t enjoy those story much.

How sexually satisfying was this hookup? Very

Did you have an orgasm? Yes, more than one

Did your partner have an orgasm? Yes, multiple

What happened AFTER the hookup? How did you feel about it the next day? What are/were your expectations/hopes for the future with this person? How do you feel about them now? I woke up cuddling him the next morning and we did it one more, then took a shower ( not together) and then awkwardly chatting a little more before I quickly said good bye and he took me home. I felt okay after that. Not so bad but not the best feeling in the world obviously, and also I felt quite fortunately I didn’t feel the urge of having anything more with him at that point. I guessed I did only expect we could do that again sometimes and maybe make those fantasied come true someday. We did hooked up for 1 more time few weeks after and then sadly stopped it by a drama from a mutual friend and made our way back today ( hopefully)

What precautions did you take to prevent STIs and pregnancy? (Check all that apply) Condoms

What were your motives for this hookup? Fun, pleasure, horniness, Attraction to partner(s), Learning new things, experimenting, To feel more desirable

How intoxicated were you? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How intoxicated was your partner? Not at all (no alcohol or drugs)

How wanted was this hookup for you at the time? Very

Did you consent to this hookup at the time? I didn’t give a clear ‘yes’, but I didn’t give a ‘no’

How wanted was this hookup for your partner at the time? Very

Did your partner(s) consent to this hookup? They gave enthusiastic consent

To whom did you talk about the hookup? How did they react? My very very close friend as I was quite excited about that amazing experience. she react like girl I dont judge, as long as you like it. But she really didnt mean it hmmm

How would you best summarize people’s reactions about this hookup? Mixed (Some positive, some negative)

Did you get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? A little bit

Did your partner get emotionally hurt as a result of this hookup? I don’t know / I’m not sure

Do you regret this hookup? Not at all

What was the BEST thing about this hookup? Made me confident about myself. Also quite fulfill some of my fantasy :p

What was the WORST thing about this hookup? Quite hard to name one. Oh I got quite in-secured after awhile as I was afraid I might be into him and hurt myself someday so I asked him to stop it.

Has this hookup changed the way you think about casual sex, sexuality, or yourself in general? Yes, It was not so bad actually as long as you are with the right one

All things considered, how POSITIVE was this experience? Very positive

All things considered, how NEGATIVE was this experience? A little negative

Anything else you want to add about this hookup? Great experience

What are your thoughts on casual sex more generally, the role it has played in your life, and/or its role in society? What would you like to see changed in that regard? Well It worked on me as I have need but quite not so sure to engage in any relationship at that time. But after all I still keep a quite neutral attitude toward this, don’t judge but not a big fan also.

What do you think about the Casual Sex Project? Really fun and interesting

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